I feel like I'm back in the bloody playground - have just snapped at another mother.

[wannaBe]

Have spoken about this woman previously

here

Basically she doesn't speak to me, doesn't like my ds (for no good reason) despite the fact the boys are best friends. She is really, really hard on her ds, shouts at him constantly for the smallest thing except if my ds is involved then she lets him talk to/do to my ds whatever he wants , would like to add at this stage that her ds isn't a nasty child just a tipicle 5 yo.

We did actually used to be friends but for some reason she suddenly stopped talking to me...

So today at the park words were had between my/her ds, and the next thing I know she goes over and lays into my ds, shouting etc. I then call my ds over and ask him what's going on and he says that "xxx kicked me." and before I could respond or ask what happened to provoke this she screams, and I mean screams, across the park "no! xxx did not kick you!" and I'm afraid I lost it at that point and turned to her and said "just keep out of it!".

I established that my ds had been in the wrong, he'd been climbing up the slide while her ds was coming down, no-one had actually got hurt, I told him we don't climb up the slide for the exact reason that if someone is coming down then all stand to get hurt, so imo it was dealt with.

But it's not her bloody place to go screaming at other peoples' children like that imo. And I've never shouted at another mum before, ever. but she just makes me so .

There are nasty people in all walks of life - try not to let it get to you.

She sounds like a nutter. How old is her/your ds? Is her ds a pfb?

She sounds really vile, poor you. I would go mental if anyone shouted at my kids, that's my job. Can you encourage him to form other friendships? It isn't fair on the other little boy but I would steer well clear of this woman if i were you.

Good on u Wannabe. I would of done the exact same thing.

Much better than saying nothing, stewing on it, then wishing you had said something. Hope she has learned to keep her nose out

It's not her place to shout at you. And sounds like you have had some issues brewing wtih her anyway - which si why you flew off the handle.

Does your little boy genuinely like the other little boy? IF yes, then probably worth grinning and bearing it - but try to take deep breaths in future situations. If he is indifferent, can you just get him to play with other children> Not worth the hassle in that case

no sadly our ds' are best friends, and I'm personally not one for believing in influencing childrens' friendships.

yes he's her pfb although her attitude towards him is bizarre.

She's really, really hard on him. If he puts one finger out of place she comes down on him like a ton of bricks. When he was at preschool she used to make him sit and write his name, and if he got it wrong she would rip it up and throw it away and make him start again. And yet since he's started school she says she can't be bothered to read/write with him .

She has, on occasion, told him that she hates him

Has said she can't cope with his behavior, but really his behavior is no different to any other 5 yo.

dh reckons she has a screw loose.

she sounds like a fish wife, well rid!

She sounds horrid, but your boy did accuse hers of kicking him, which turned out to be untrue. Sorry, just wondering what her version of events mught be?

but technically her ds did kick mine, but it was my ds' fault, iykwim? as in, he was climbing up the slide and the other boy started to come down and kicked ds on his way down - it was an accident brought on by my ds' silly behavior and my ds was told as such by me.

If ds had said "xxx kicked me" and I'd said "well that wasn't very nice of xx was it" I could have understood her response, but before I could even ask what had happened she started. I then asked ds what happened and he said "I was climbing up the slide" at which point I said "well you should know better than to climb up the slide shouldn't you, because that's how people get hurt."

It's not really relevant what happened, she was out of order.

Jeez - that poor little boy wannabe .

He'll grow up with massive problems if he's permanently criticised. I know because I was.

She sounds like she needs help, quickly.

Oh, and I don't blame you for shouting at her, I would have done too

Sounds like she is taking her problem with you (whatever that is) out on your DS.

Did she like your DS before she stopped talking to you?

Doesn't sound like the sort of friend you want anyway but I'm afraid you might have to tolerate her for your DS sake.