Other child encouraging mine to be naughty

[LornaJx]

My DD (4) has made a friend in reception (5) and she is encouraging my DD to be naughty, telling her to run off from me and other things. We live near each other and my DD wanted to play straight after (bumped into each other on way home). I said to my DD you would need to go home and get changed first. The other child said ‘tell her no’. What would you do?

Well what did you say to the other child and/or its parent when it answered back with that?

As @henrysugar12 says in this instance.

What are the examples of her trying to make your child misbehave?

Because that wasn't one.

The mum didn’t hear I don’t think. She was walking ahead a bit with her other children and I just said she needs to get changed or she can not come out to play. I think these children are allowed to play out without any supervision and seem to be quite naughty and I’ve witnessed them answer back to their mum

On the few occasions she has played in the garden with them I’ve stayed there and they throw their empty packets of food round their garden and my DD has started to do it too now. She never used too

My DD has a friend like this and I’ve had a chat with DD about not doing what her friend says if it will get her into trouble. If I hear it then I intervene so in that situation I’d say “DD knows that we’re doing this”

You just need to set your expectations, so if they're playing in your front garden and throw packets on the floor, you go out and tell them both to pick them up and put them in the bin. If you overhear her telling your child to do the opposite of what you've said, you tell her 'I've said no, that's the answer for now, DD can do xx another time'.

I have halted a friendship that my son had with a neighbours child, the neighbours child wanted him to do really bad things and his behavious is so dangerous the child was reported to the police and they had to talk to the parents.

I dont regret my choice. I do not want my child emulating that behavious and thinking it is ok

Just be firm and clear with your dc.
If she says friend doing it say well you are not.
To the tell her no comment I’d have said to friend No ‘Katie’ is getting changed first.
Firm tone no nonsense.

You can tell other people’s children. So if they are throwing packets in your garden say no Jane we put packets in the bin at our house. Your house your rules. Your dc your rules.

This. And not only that, you set boundaries for your own children and they will follow them as long as they know what you expect from them.