I reaaaally struggle to “take each day as it comes”

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Basically looking for advice. I’m currently having ADHD investigated so it may be linked.

My partner and I have gone abroad for 6 months. He’s gone out there to play sport and I have come too, it’s an amazing opportunity. It’s a beautiful country.
It’s obviously for a long time and we are living with someone very generous from the sports club. Partner is contractually obliged to play each week so we will travel on the way home and see/explore places throughout the trip.

But I keep putting pressure on myself. Seeing other people on social media travelling even though we’re here to live and at a slower pace.
We’ve been here for 48 hours and I’m already feeling bummed that we haven’t gone to explore anywhere yet. We’ve only so far spent time settling in and unpacking, going to the shop to buy essentials, taken a walk etc. we haven’t even met anyone from the club yet but we will do tomorrow.
I know this is normal but I’m putting so much pressure on myself so soon into the trip. It doesn’t help that everyone says “enjoy every minute” and “make the most of it”

How do I just relax and stop putting so much unnecessary pressure on myself, giving things a fair chance?

I really need help to just be normal and relax!

I'd give up social media for a start.

Yeah that’s probably would help

Can anyone help?

It’s been 48 hours I think breathe do exactly what you are doing get settled and then make a plan. The issue/ reality is you’re not really on a holiday your partner is working therefore that’s where the priority lies, isn’t it. Once he settles into his workday/ workweek routine you will have more of an understanding about how much time you have together to explore versus how much time you have to explore independently.

Could you write a list of things you want to do when you’re there? Some day to day that you can maybe do while he’s working and some bigger stuff to do together? Might help to get it all out to give your mind a break.

you can tick it off as you go

I’m telling myself I need to be doing fun things and “‘along the most of things” when I don’t even know what that means. I seem to think there’s something wrong with sitting in or relaxing

Make the most of things*

Give yourself time. I felt exactly like this when I went travelling for a year. It was lack of routine at the heart of it. I didn’t realise how hard I would find it but I got used to it after a few weeks. I initially wanted everyday planned out and packed with activities whereas my travel partner was very chilled and wanted to take each day as it came which freaked me out. Once you are settled and know what to expect; these feelings will subside.

But why not go and do some exploring, solo if your partner isn’t up for it? You sound as if at least some of the issue is that you want to be doing something in the new environment, and are stressing because you haven’t? Are you working while you’re there?