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AIBU or am I right to be a annoyed?

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ohgreatnotagain · 03/10/2023 17:54

So on Sunday, my other half cleared out the shed and did some gardening in a pair of tracksuit bottoms. Once he finished I said 'they need to go in the wash as they are filthy' and he said 'I know' so thought he'd chuck them in the wash. Get home today and I asked him why on earth he's wearing those when they are dirty and he said 'they were on the clean pile of washing' and I said no they weren't because our washing machine has been broken since Saturday so you know they aren't and I asked him to change them as he's sitting on the sofa in them. Now it sounds petty but he use to tell me his work clothes were clean and our last sofa went black and I had to pay a lot of money to get them dry cleaned because he'd sit on the sofa in them after fixing trucks all day. So I go up to the cupboard to put together all of our washing to take to my mums and he's folded them and put them back to wear again?! He said he'd wear them to work at his evening job and I said 'not in my brand new car you won't' he has plenty of clean tracksuit bottoms.. now AIBU that I just want him to respect the house and keep it clean? Because he doesn't have to pay to have it clean nor does he clean it.. he can be so filthy time and has lack of respect our home..

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Antst · 03/10/2023 18:12

You're not being unreasonable. He is an adult. He should know how to take care of himself and his home.

You need to sit him down and tell him you want a husband, not a child, and you don't want to have to manage this kind of thing in future. He can never, ever wear dirty clothing in the house. Make him take it off the second he comes in the door and certainly before he enters the living room. Tell him you never want to have to discuss this again.

Also, why are you you paying for things like dry cleaning? Household expenses should not all be on you.

ohgreatnotagain · 03/10/2023 18:28

@Antst I've told him many times before which is why it annoyed me so much when I got home and saw him sitting in them.. he got in such a mood but I just want to keep my home clean? He has plenty of clean clothes which made it even more frustrating!

He does pay for our DD's nursery so he doesn't have that much money but the sofa he ruined years ago was before we even had our little one!

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Antst · 03/10/2023 18:34

@ohgreatnotagain, you need to stop discussing this with him and stop caring about his moods. Tell him in no uncertain terms that this has to stop. He is not a child. He knows how to look after himself and the house. You're sick of this. You're sick of things being ruined and having to waste money on getting them cleaned. It is never to happen again.

Don't discuss it. Make a rule and let him know his life will be easier if he observes it.

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