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Bit disappointed about colleague/acquaintance

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Codie22345 · 03/10/2023 14:13

Started working for a large company, I'd been told a friend of a friend works here, but it seemed she would be in a different part of the building. I have met her several times, last time was maybe a year ago. She's also good friends with my old colleague.
Anyway I saw her by chance yesterday morning in the toilets. I asked her how she was and told her I was pleased to see her, that it was funny we both worked here now etc. She just smiled casually said good to see you and walked off straight away before I could ask her any more questions. She didn't look too fussed. I went to look for her during lunch but couldn't see her.
Then earlier I saw she just walked right past me, didn't seem fussed about stopping to have a quick chat,she didn't see that I'd seen her.
I mean I know she doesn't owe me anything, and hasn't done anything wrong. Nobody's saying we should be best friends, but she's just making it clear she's not interested in speaking to me, not even a quick polite chat.
Just worried it'll make things awkward. Won't see her every day, but in case. I know nobody has to like everyone, I don't think I was ever rude or anything to her previously. I guess it's a bit disappointing but hopefully I'll make new friends here.

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1month · 03/10/2023 14:57

Is she quite a new employee?

It could be that she’s just trying to make a good impression or not come across as cliquey with anyone.

I too would be a bit miffed though, so I completely understand where you’re coming from.

sillymd · 03/10/2023 15:01

She's rude

I wouldn't do that

I'm sorry

Codie22345 · 03/10/2023 15:02

I think she's been there about 6 months, not too sure

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hydriotaphia · 03/10/2023 15:03

I am a bit surprised at some of the comments saying this is completely normal and polite. If an acquaintance of mine started working at the same place as me, I would expect at the very least a 5 minute, "oh hi Brenda, isn't it funny we both work here now, so have you seen Derek lately, oh well see you around..." type chat the first time I saw them. No need to be special friends with them after that, but imho a bit of small talk is polite whether or not you like them personally and want to be friends with them. Treating someone that you know like they are someone you don't know isn't polite or professional - in most professions there is some expectation of collegiality. I wouldn't overthink it because this person may have had other things on her mind or simply not enjoy small talk at all, but I don't think the OP is crazy for finding her behaviour odd.

Codie22345 · 03/10/2023 15:06

Thanks for understanding me.

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fatrascall · 03/10/2023 15:09

I think you are taking this too personally OP. She's just keeping a polite distance, it doesn't mean anything about not liking you, she doesn't even know you. She just doesn't want to chat, some people aren't very chatty at work. It was a bit strange of you to actually go looking for her.

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