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Giving feedback on a training/development event to the facilitator

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ImJustMadAboutSaffron · 03/10/2023 09:39

I've recently been on a development programme which consisted of two half-day sessions. It was otherwise excellent, except for one thing that I don't know whether to feed back on. The nature of the event was about being heard, empowered and so on. I have ADHD and I take things mostly literally and at face value. With me what you see is what you get and I have learned the hard way not everyone is like that. So this is one of the things I have always struggled with, as well as being made fun of as I grew up by older siblings and relatives - who didn't understand me, just thought I was a silly kid.

The event was great, as was the facilitator. However, as part of her "sense of humour" she said things such as that to join the online community you have to do it within 48 hours which wasn't true and apparently she was joking. Another was that (we were asked to do a timeline and use coloured pens, all very fancy ones) pens had to be put back in the holder in order of colour. I took that seriously and was then told it was a joke and people laughed. I'm in my 40s now and still struggle with being made into a joke.

I get that sense of humour is individual, but it didn't fit with me to have this sort of joking in this type of event. Humour did fit in there, but not this sort. Or at least not for me.

I filled in the feedback sheet and didn't mention it and now wish I had. Would it be out of order to message and say this? Does it make me look an arse?

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RoomOfRequirement · 03/10/2023 09:47

If your examples had taken away from your development training or prevented you from taking part, I'd say mention it immediately.

But they didn't. It was just a joke you didn't understand/get and sadly group trainings can never fully take into account what EVERYONE needs at every time. This is one I'd let go.

5128gap · 03/10/2023 09:50

Yes I'd definitely give feedback on this. Its really important that training is inclusive and makes everyone as comfortable as possible to contribute. She clearly hasn't thought through the impact of this sort of joke. Just explain as you have here. A good facilitator would want to learn from this.

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