To ask how you deal with insecurity

[Lauryn95]

I'm heavily pregnant and so so insecure ,I've been off work for a while now due to a herniated disk and been in alot of pain so I'm sure this is a contributing factor, I haven't been out the house accept for the school run in 5 weeks not even to do the shopping ,so think I'm a little depressed too ,Anyway I'm so insecure and jealous ,I'm really paranoid and keep having dreams that DH is having an affair and genuinely just fleeting thoughts if he still wants me and intrusive thoughts that hes shagging about when at the gym etc It's really getting me down because I'm not normally like this at all ,im usually so confident and trusting etc these thoughts are so unusual for me,nothing he has done either it's purely irrational but I want it to stop and I need advice because I feel like it'll end up getting worse and ruin my relationship. I haven't spoken to him about any of this because I don't want him to think I'm pathetic which is how I feel. I know it's just a combination of my hormones and current situation playing havoc in my brain ,I just don't know what I can do in myself to change my mindset if anything at all

Being pregnant can really mess with your brain let alone being pregnant, in severe pain and mainly confined to the house. So you have my sympathy.

How is your DH behaving towards you? I’m certainly not implying that he is having an affair but if he’s not being helpful and sympathetic then your mind can go on overdrive.

I would genuinely recommend talking to your GP or midwife so they can assess you for depression which is quite common in pregnancy. Also can you look for ways to break up the monotony a bit? A friend could maybe come over or take you out for a coffee. I found being in water very soothing when pregnant and with a disc prolapse- you don’t even have to swim, just float and move gently. See if yo can get physio which may help.

And this is temporary, keep that in your head. Talk to people and talk to your DH. Not perhaps that you suspect him of anything but that you are feeling low and insecure and could do with some extra support. He may not realise especially if he perceives himself as already giving extra support with physical tasks.