Was this an appropriate response?

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I bought some adhesive mirror tiles from Amazon. Tried to stick them on the wall, thought I got the measurements right, and lo and behold...they weren't straight. Tried taking them off and took a massive chunk of paint off the wall. Restuck them but they're not centre because I had to cover the wall. Plus they're still slightly slanted. Probably shouldn't have attempted this with three hours sleep and in hindsight it was stupid and impulsive, but it doesn't look THAT bad.

Dh went ballistic about it not being centre and apparently looking shite. Swearing and shouting in front of dc. Says it's not the first time I've done impulsive stuff like this (true. I damaged a wall in our last rental trying to hang a picture but fixed it before we moved. You wouldn't have known) and he's annoyed because we're renting. Totally understand except he didn't pay the bond and it is fixable. Says he doesn't understand how I managed to fuck it up once, let alone twice. I knew he'd react like this.

Aibu to think he's overreacting and could've been kinder?

I hate it when people don't plan projects properly and make a pig's ear out of them.

Swearing isn't necessary though.

Are you allowed to stick stuff on your wall?

He shouldn't have "gone ballistic" though

YANBU. I’m not saying you’ve acted with unmitigated genius here, but it doesn’t justify him being so horrible when he’s literally your husband and therefore meant to cherish and adore you.

Dh went ballistic about it not being centre and apparently looking shite. Swearing and shouting in front of dc.

I don't think that either going "ballistic" or "swearing and shouting in front of DC" are ever reasonable responses to anything really to be honest.

I wouldn’t think sticking stuff - badly - to the wall of a rental is a good idea, no. But his reaction sounds ott.

Nothing that can't be mended, is he the wall police?

Is he always such a bellend op

That'd drive me insane. The damage, and it not being centred, or even straight...

What qualifies as "going ballistic"?. "Oh for fucks sake" would be a fairly normal reaction, shouting and swearing is never necessary.

Very annoying, but shouting and swearing (especially in front of children) is totally unacceptable.

Hmmn need more details of his reaction. How long did the shouting and swearing go on for? I'd be pretty fucked off if you were my partner. I take it you don't want your deposit back!

It is annoying when people jump into something without prepping first. And are you actually going to fix it (and do a proper job of fixing it) or are you going to leave it for ages? Because that would be a big part of how annoying it will be too.

But if he genuinely was screaming and shouting then that’s an OTT reaction.

His effing and Jeffing in front of te kids was inappropriate but since you admit you have form for this kind of stuff, its no wonder he's pissed off

He sounds like an arsehole but you sound like an idiot. I'd probably have had a go at you too.

😂 Ditto

Command strips are your friends in a rental property.

I would be pretty pissed off too but no excuse for behaving like that in front of the kids (or at all depending how bad his rant was).

Did you ask if he wanted mirrors?

I do things like this; best of intentions but doesn’t always work out. My DH will sigh and shake his head; sometimes will say I told you so. But no shouting or swearing, massive over reaction

Is it usual for him to go mad or has he had a bad day and come home to a monstrosity of a DIY project?
My SIL is forever getting a (disastrous) craft DIY project on the go with horrifying and very expensive consequences, which drives my DB bonkers as it's usually him (and sometimes me!!!) that fixes it!! Infuriating.

Seriously though your landlord is likely to be unhappy too. I can see why your DH was angry.