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IaskUanswer · 2023-10-02T13:30:40+00:00

Specially people who have (almost) everything. They have a partner, kids, health, job, hobbies… Shouldn’t life be pretty good, can they really afford to complain so much. Are they just type of people who will never be happy? Why do they become such people?

Hooples · 02/10/2023 16:38

Dhs mum is a complainer, but it’s done in a more ‘I’m hard done by’ way.
She is quite passive aggressive about it too ‘I’ve had the same clothes for years and so & so (usually her own dd) has just bought themselves loads of new stuff’
‘xxxx gets a pension now, lucky them, how am I supposed to live off ££££
(despite mil not working since she was in her late 40s)

Nothing is ever good enough for her - it’s boring tbh & no one takes her seriously anymore.

WhatHaveIFound · 02/10/2023 16:46

IaskUanswer · 02/10/2023 14:38

I think they had parents who complained all the time

I just spend the weekend with my parents and that actually inspired me to make this thread!
They have everything, twice over, and yet, all they ever do is complain and whine about everything. Never anything nice to say.
But I’m not like that.

My mum is the same. She always has something to complain about whenever I phone her (most days) despite the fact she has a lot to be thankful for. She never has anything nice to say about anyone either and it's very wearing.

I'm completely not like her.

HoneyBadgerMom · 02/10/2023 16:48

Our current society has glamorized victimhood. No one wants to be responsible, no one wants to be tough. We're telling people their problems are someone else's fault and there's nothing they can do but whine and complain. So they do. It's certainly easier to whine "it's not fair!" than to put your head down and work hard.

nutellacrepe · 02/10/2023 16:49

5128gap · 02/10/2023 16:21

Their bar for happiness is very high.
I consider myself fortunate in that mine is fairly low, and it doesn't take a lot to keep me happy, so I don't feel much need to moan.
Recently went on a work event with a colleague. She complained about the food, the size of the hotel room, the tedium of the speakers and the hour delay for the train coming home. All I saw was plenty to eat that i hadnt had to pay for, a comfy bed in a clean warm room, being able to sit back and listen to some presentations rather than dealing with the day job, and that there was only an hour delay which I spent reading my book, so no harm done.

Yes. It's all about perspective and people who do not spend their lives focussing on the negatives are often more content. Sometimes expectations are too high and it makes us miserable.

hamstersarse · 02/10/2023 16:55

These types tend to be more materialistic chasing the consumerist dream, comparing themselves against others and it comes out in envy and bitterness.

When things don't match their dreams they often ask 'Why me?'

I tend to reply 'Why not you? '

Badbadbunny · 02/10/2023 16:58

Oblomov23 · 02/10/2023 14:36

I complain a lot. About all sorts of things. Why should I not be allowed to? Boris Johnson, wasted money on covid poi. my local hospital individual incompetence meaning you can't get an MRI. I don't make such mistakes in my job. Why should I have to put up with such incompetence from others?

100% agree. If anything we don't complain enough and end up with shoddy goods and crap service. By not complaining, organisations just get away with it and things get worse.

whatnot929 · 02/10/2023 17:06

Oblomov23 · 02/10/2023 14:36

I complain a lot. About all sorts of things. Why should I not be allowed to? Boris Johnson, wasted money on covid poi. my local hospital individual incompetence meaning you can't get an MRI. I don't make such mistakes in my job. Why should I have to put up with such incompetence from others?

But who are you complaining TO? About Boris Johnson, about the hospital...are you complaining to them? Or to your friends/family, who can't do anything about it, aren't responsible, and are probably bored of it?

Normalsizedsalad · 02/10/2023 17:07

HoneyBadgerMom · 02/10/2023 16:48

Our current society has glamorized victimhood. No one wants to be responsible, no one wants to be tough. We're telling people their problems are someone else's fault and there's nothing they can do but whine and complain. So they do. It's certainly easier to whine "it's not fair!" than to put your head down and work hard.

Have you read The subtle art of not giving a fuck? Great book and talks about the "statuses".
The extraordinary, the dreaded average and the ones who can't (as 99.9% of planet) be extraordinary (which though everyone is telling us we can be if we want to...) so chose the other path of victim/loser.

Read chapter 3- You are not special
Last part with But-but-but
(pdf book)
https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=nibmehub.com/opac-service/pdf/read/The%2520Subtle%2520Art%2520of%2520Not%2520Giving%2520a%2520Fck%2520A%2520Counterintuitive%2520Approach%2520to%2520Living%2520a%2520Good%2520Life%2520by%2520Mark%2520Manson%2520(z-lib.org).pdf&ved=2ahUKEwj0kejR3deBAxUjV6QEHVL9B_QQFnoECA8QAQ&usg=AOvVaw1e2wRVtzLF5b8yuKboW0v_

girlfriend44 · 02/10/2023 17:56

That's sad. Moany people don't attract others. You tend to gravitate towards people who are cheerful and friendly. They are the most popular people.
Moaners are boring and as you say they don't do themselves any favours.

MamaGhina · 02/10/2023 18:01

I love a complaint if it’s justified. I will complain in writing or escalate if not addressed to my satisfaction.

I don’t moan about pointless stuff or where it’s not justified because I appreciate I have a pretty good life.

I like to think I’m the happy medium.

RedToothBrush · 03/10/2023 09:24

My PIL.

Go on a cruise around the world. Visit lots of amazing places.

What do we find out about? How dinner on night 2 was horrendous because they got cheese that was three degrees too warm and how this ruined their entire holiday. Its a power trip for them - they take it out on staff and thats what they enjoy.

I'd never do building work for them or my neighbour. Expectations do not match with what is actually possible in real life. They are total arseholes to 'lower status' individuals.

Its cos they have massive insecurity issues in life.