If you are a cleaner - would this be okay?

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I clean through an agency. Have done a particular house through them for about 4 months. Will say at this point that I’m pretty hardened to dirt and grime and general revoltingness!

Last week whilst cleaning there was an open suitcase on the bed. I was going to lift it off to make the bed and noticed an amount of fetish items in it. Each to their own, didn’t touch it, left the bed.

In the main bedroom was left very prominently (with the instructions unfolded next to it with a clear picture of how to use it!), a male sex toy. Used.

I cleaned the rest of the rooms, left the keys and let the agency know I wouldn’t be going back. Tbh I still feel slightly repulsed, I feel it was obviously left out for me to find and although I am pretty unshockable usually this has I guess upset me. I have no issue with what people do or don’t do but I don’t want to look at things I wouldn’t choose to see. If that makes sense?

Anyhow AIBU to refuse to go back? To still be feeling a bit unsettled?

Did you explain why to the agency? To spare them sending any other woman. I would think this man’s fetish also includes upsetting unsuspecting women.

eurgh the fucking dirty scummer

YANBU not to go back and inform the agency why.

I wouldn't assume it was left out for you to find, you really don't know that, some people are just careless and forgetful. Someone might be absolutely mortified when they realise this. Of course, you could be right. You just don't know, so don't jump to conclusions.

But yeah, I wouldn't go back either.

I'd feel very unsettled too.

Is it possible he got his days mixed up and thought you'd be coming the next day or something. He may have got home and been horrified when he realised.

Either way, I think you're reasonable not to go back but do tell the agency why.

I did tell the agency. They seemed to not really know what to do in that situation. So hopefully they won’t send someone else.

Part of some people's fetish is to involve others in it without their explicit will/knowledge/consent. Well done for giving consequences to their actions and holding your boundary, yanbu.

You absolutely did the right thing. He's left those out on purpose. No one should have to deal with that.

Sick pervert trying to involve you in his little fetish.

You did the right thing. Please tell the agency so they can drop him.