How can I help dd who has just heard that she has not been selected for something that all of her friends have got into (a production) and will now take up all of their free time until February? Dd was desperate to be selected as this is her passion.
I feel so bad for her.
She has always struggled with friendships and I have been so worried over the years. We have had some awful times with friends deliberately excluding her in the past and she has been so resilient in picking her self up and getting on with it but it has been exhausting. The past 2 years we have really turned a corner and she has made a group of lovely friends and has finally got a good social life. She is 17. Because of this she has blossomed in confidence and it is so nice.
Now this has happened I am so worried we will be back where we have been in the past. Her whole friend group except her have been selected and this is a big thing which will take up a lot of their spare time and I just feel so bad for dd that she will not be a part of it and that she will feel excluded and will be back where she was a few years ago. For context this meant having her lunch in the toilet , not going out or being invited anywhere for a year and having friends decline every invitation she sent. I know I am probably over thinking or catastrophising but this is how I feel right now and I need to get a grip. Is there anything practical I can do?
Please help as I will do anything to avoid her going back where we were a few years ago as it was utter hell.
thanks for listening