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To contemplate running this marathon?

17 replies

Trainplan · 02/10/2023 09:30

I've been a runner for decades, but I've only ever done one marathon, more than 10 years ago. It broke me in so many ways. The training impacted on family life way too much, not just the time running, but the fact that I was so tied when I wasn't running. Mentally and physically I think it took me a year to recover. I was early 40s then with two youngish children, a busy job/life etc.

Since then I've always said I'll never do another, but my life has changed enormously. I'm mid 50s, single, children now adults, a rewarding and interesting job, demanding at times, but I only work 3 days. I'm running 3/4 times a week and can comfortably run a half marathon in just over 2 hours.

Life is pretty good, but I spend too much time online, have found myself struggling for motivation, not just for running, but simple things like keeping on top of housework. I have time on my hands so nothing ever feels urgent, so I don't get it done at all iyswim. I could do with a different focus and something to work towards.

Anyway an acquaintance, a really committed runner who is very supportive in the running community, has signed up to do a European City marathon in the spring and booked hotel rooms (to hold the price, but can be cancelled) so people can join if they'd like. He's put out an open invitation. I am very tempted to ask him to help me train for it, which he has done for lots of people over the years.

For full disclosure, possibly this is influenced by the fact that he's a single man my age and we've had the odd "moment" at social events recently 😆 I've no idea of that will come to anything, but I think the whole thing could be really good for me regardless....

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Trainplan · 02/10/2023 09:32

When I say help my train, I mean ask his advice on how to do it so it doesn't break me this time.

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StillWantingADog · 02/10/2023 09:36

Yeah go for it!

I’m in my mid 40s and desperately want to run a marathon but just can’t find the time with youngish children with a challenging extra curricular schedule

I’ve put the idea to one side but def plan to do one when I’m a bit older and hopefully have more time!

sounds like a good opportunity. Just don’t do what my friend did recently which was have to stagger to the airport just having done the Berlin marathon. Stay an extra night at least!

TigerRag · 02/10/2023 09:37

Do it!

And as above - stay over an extra night after the marathon. We did when we did Dublin and I'm glad we stayed.

movehimintothesun · 02/10/2023 09:37

I'm no marathon runner myself, so can't comment about the physical aspect, but based the way you have worded your OP, I'd say definitely go for it! Read it back to yourself; you sound genuinely excited by the idea, and it's rare in life to regret saying 'Yes' to an opportunity like this. I think you might regret saying No though.

Savoretti · 02/10/2023 09:39

Do it!
There are loads of training plans online so just choose one which works for you. No need to ask for his advice as that does sound a little lame 😉

DancingQueen2018 · 02/10/2023 09:45

Go for it!
It sounds like you’re in a very different place than before, and you’re not coming from zero running.

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 02/10/2023 09:48

Do it! Nothing to lose, everything to gain!!

AuntieStella · 02/10/2023 09:49

Do it!!

I started running in my 50s, and have done a couple of marathons. If you get yourself to a good level of running fitness, then stepping up isn't that difficult, but it takes time and you have to respect the distance.

Being able to run a half marathon comfortably sounds a good level of running fitness, especially as you're at around the 2hour point (for context GFA/elite time for women 55-59 is about 1:53). There are lots of training plans that will take you up to full marathon - getting you accustomed to 16 then 18 mile runs, then (typically) just before a 3 week taper you have the three successive hard weeks with long runs (mine were 19, 21 and 23 miles each) which takes time and is draining. But also hugely rewarding - and of course it's those runs where you test out all your lovely new kit and experiment with fuelling and hydration.

Have fun!!

Lastqueenofscotland2 · 02/10/2023 09:51

Which one?!
Yes I’d do it, a lot of the European ones also have halves on the same day so if you get to the training and really hate the longer stuff you can usually swap your entry too

Trainplan · 02/10/2023 09:52

Savoretti · 02/10/2023 09:39

Do it!
There are loads of training plans online so just choose one which works for you. No need to ask for his advice as that does sound a little lame 😉

Oh I know, but he'll enjoy being asked 😉

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Trainplan · 02/10/2023 09:53

Lastqueenofscotland2 · 02/10/2023 09:51

Which one?!
Yes I’d do it, a lot of the European ones also have halves on the same day so if you get to the training and really hate the longer stuff you can usually swap your entry too

Originally I did think I'll tag along and do the half, that's where the whole idea started, but the half is the following day when the others will be flying home.

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Trainplan · 02/10/2023 10:18

OK. Deep breath, I've sent a message enquiring about the hotel rooms he's booked...

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Trainplan · 02/10/2023 11:05

All booked and he said some really nice things too 😆

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Trainplan · 02/10/2023 11:06

I mean I'm all booked, not the rooms are all booked. 🤣 Best start planning....

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TheChosenTwo · 02/10/2023 12:00

That’s great! I trained for one a few years ago (sadly didn’t make the start line due to a bone break), it was hugely time consuming in more ways than just the training as you’ve outlined. Wasn’t really the right time for me but I wouldn’t rule one out in the future when home demands are less.
Good luck, you’ve got a good amount of miles confidently under your belt already so you’re building upon a good foundation. 🥳

Trainplan · 03/10/2023 09:47

Oh, so it looks like so far it's only me and him going....Not that I'll be any use to anyone, if I've got to run a marathon 😆

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Phunny · 04/05/2024 20:24

@Trainplan what happened?? did you run it? did love blossom??

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