Me, DP, 18 month old DS.
Both work full time. I WFH and DP works out of the home, he leaves at 6am and gets home at 6pm. He also often chooses to work Saturday and is out from roughly 6am to 2pm.
I obviously do all the weekday mornings with DS, and all of the nursery pick up and drop offs. DP does bath time when he's home, and is usually awake on weekend mornings if he's not working so he will get DS when he wakes up.
I get that he's tired because he gets up early each day, but he's in bed by 8pm and asleep by 9.30 so he's getting a solid 8 hours.... and as I work from home and don't have a commute. I take on 95% of the housework, laundry, life admin, and 100% of the cooking to try to make life less tiring for him. I encourage him to make time to see friends, to exercise, have some time to himself - all with the aim of improving his quality of life etc.
It absolutely enrages me that he consistently every single day leaves drawers and cupboards wide open, clothes on the floor, toiletries lying around the KITCHEN (yes the kitchen not the bathroom), just generally doesn't pick up after himself no matter how many times I mention it.
He leaves his clean laundry (which I've washed, dried and folded) just sitting in a heap in the spare room for over a week and it just gets added to daily until I have to say "can you put your laundry away?".
He does nothing to try to improve his energy levels either. As mentioned I've suggested making time for more regular exercise, I cook home cooked meals but he chooses to eat junk food and fast food during the day so then he's not hungry in the evening.
Off to bed at 8pm, crashes out by 9pm and and cycle starts all over again.
AIBU to be fed up with it?
If so any ideas on how to improve?