Husband shouts over small things ( he’s from iraq and came to U.K. when he was 25 I have been raised here since I was 4) we both have Muslim backgrounds
he tidied the table and when he got home it was full of books as me and kids had been doing homework . And he shouts “what is this” and I could hear from outside
so I became very upset and told him not to shout as it’s toxic and I have a history of anxiety /autism . And I would need to take my beta blocker to calm heart rate down and he said that’s not his problem.
i said I have a mental illness and he said “yes you’re mental”
we keep going back and forth having good days and terrible days like yesterday
im around 6m pregnant and told him that the beta blockers and diazepam aren’t god for the baby and he said it’s not his problem I’m too sensitive
when I said I would report him to police from emotional abuse he started recording our conversation unknown to me although he has a history of doing it ) and he got me to admit that I have also shouted in the past !
so I feel trapped as if I tell police he has a laptop backed up with video and audio evidence of me having autistic meltdowns sometimes scratching him during the recordings as he doesn’t stop recording )
this morning I was painting walls and he just walks past and says nothing then goes to bed . Similarly he opens the curtains to get me out of bed and then when I leave the room he closes them again.