To find life dull?

[supplycaptain]

I don’t know if what I’m feeling is normal or a sign of depression or something. The last time I was genuinely happy was when I was about 25. The happiest I ever felt was probably during university and aspects of my childhood/teen years.

since then, I feel like life has lost its sparkle. I don’t like my job although it’s well paid, I don’t see my friends or family that often, I have direct debits coming out left, right and centre. Nothing really gives me enjoyment, I’m not sad but just constantly bored and numb. Aibu?

I feel like this at the moment. For myself I am wondering about the impact of recent bereavements and the perimenopause. It is however utterly miserable, life just seems so hard when everything feels flat or a big effort. I haven't approached a GP ad I imagine they might offer medication which I don't want.
Sympathies , I hope you find something that will spark some joy this Sunday. I am expecting a high point to be walking the dogs 🐕. I find being outside helpful, hope that there are some things that also work for you.

A lot of adult life is just day-to-day drudgery.

You say you are bored and numb, but is that due to doing things you formerly found enjoyable but no longer enjoy, or have you just stopped doing enjoyable things?

If you can not experience enjoyment despite participating in formerly enjoyable things, then yes, that tends to suggest there is a mental health factor in play.

If you are just meandering along doing grown-up life but not actually seeking anything extra-curricular beyond eat/work/sleep, then no, I'd say that's just you meandering along in a rut, and you need to change things up.

I think it is the drudgery of adult working life , the treadmill .
Focus on getting a quality life outside of work , have things to look forward to at the weekend , future holidays , an evening exercise class once a week etc something to break the monotony.

I’ve felt like this, it’s as if we’ve been sold a lie and life, unless you’re extremely rich, is mostly drudgery. I feel much happier when we aren’t at work, as I think it’s work which everything has to revolve around. Can’t wait to retire to be honest but shouldn’t be wishing my life away.

@supplycaptain how old are you?

Your base life sounds like a secure springboard to enjoy life from.

I still find things to enjoy despite having an utterly shit base life.

You do have to go out and find stuff you want to do though. It won’t find you. Start looking beyond your normal parameters, find your interest in life again and get out there. Life is full of more interesting stuff to do than there is time to do it in.

I couldn’t live like this.
Why can’t you change jobs?
Go on an adventure?
Have a party?
See more of your friends

You are making decisions every day to remain numb to life. Why?

I guess I haven’t really been as social or as active as before, which doesn’t help!

it’s also that I used to have social invites to the point of being double booked most days, now it’s few and far between that I get invited to things as everyone settles down, focuses on kids, moved to different areas etc.