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To be terrified please help.

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user1471601350 · 01/10/2023 00:57

Im a middle aged woman with long term anorexia, i have been unwell on and off for years and been admitted to hospital many times with illness caused by the disease.
My question is, ive come to the hospital of my own accord to get medical help, im eating as well as i can at each mealtime, but have been told if i dont eat they will have me sectioned, is this correct ? I have a young family and scared. If eating and drinking and really trying is a section still enevitable?
Anyone particulary in the mental health field i would appreciate your experience.
This is playing havoc with my head and actually making the eating harder.

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Wishitsnows · 01/10/2023 01:03

Hope you are going to be ok. You know something is very wrong if you have gone to a&e you did the right thing you are in the right place. Are your children ok, can you focus on what you need to do for them?

SkaneTos · 01/10/2023 01:06

I'm thinking of you, OP. I can't answer your questions, but I hope you will get the help you need. I wish you all the best.

theduchessofspork · 01/10/2023 01:09

I can’t answer your specific questions OP, but I am glad you went into hospital if you need help. A section would only be a short term thing so try not to worry about that too much.

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user1471601350 · 01/10/2023 01:09

Wishitsnows · 01/10/2023 01:03

Hope you are going to be ok. You know something is very wrong if you have gone to a&e you did the right thing you are in the right place. Are your children ok, can you focus on what you need to do for them?

Thank you for kind words, my family are all that matters to me and are well cared for but ideally mummy should be at home.
i just dont want all my efforts to still land me unable to leave, i just want to get well and go home and start living. I dont know who to trust.

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sarahzbaker · 01/10/2023 01:19

Oh my dear. They must be terribly worried about you.
Please try to take their advice. But I know it can't be easy if you have something that is so all encompassing. You need compassionate help to stop the cycle of self abuse to help you and your kids. Sending love and support. XXX

NoGNoDNoClue · 01/10/2023 01:28

Yes, it's possible - if they can demonstrate that you are putting your own safety at risk. It's not done lightly, and it's done for all the right reasons. It's not a punishment - it's so that people can get the treatment they need in order to live healthier, happier lives.

It's not inevitable though.

In your instance it sounds like they are using the possibility as motivation - it's not a given. They are trying to encourage you to eat a bit more. It's unfortunate that it's having the opposite effect. You sound like your children are your world - I'm sure you've tried this, but they could be your best motivation - both the fact that if you eat more, you'll go home quicker, but also to help demonstrate to them a healthier relationship with food.

I'm so sorry you are going through this - it's such a difficult illness. Massive kudos for going to get the help you need. I know taking the time away from family is hard, but getting better will mean it's worth it.

Wishing you health and happiness, whatever it takes to get there.

NeedToChangeName · 01/10/2023 01:39

Can't answer your question, but wishing you all the best

As a PP said, being sectioned is a way to ensure you get the treatment you need x

WombTangClan · 01/10/2023 01:42

Your babies need you healthy. If you need some extra help just now then please take it. Trust them. They are looking after you so you can look after your littles. Wishing you well ❤️

MrsChuckBass · 01/10/2023 01:50

Yes you could be sectioned, however if you can't eat but agree to be be hospitalised you can be admitted informally for treatment

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user1471601350 · 01/10/2023 01:52

Thank you all for your kind words i really wasn't expecting it and you are all correct that i should use it as motivation. It just has put my head in a wierd place because i was told by eating disorder service i was recovering.
i just want a chance to put it right myself without the threat of a section.

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user1471601350 · 01/10/2023 01:54

MrsChuckBass · 01/10/2023 01:50

Yes you could be sectioned, however if you can't eat but agree to be be hospitalised you can be admitted informally for treatment

I have eaten at lunch and dinner and also had supplements, so doing it of my own accord.

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SnowflakeCity · 01/10/2023 01:54

Can I ask why you went to the hospital? It feels like it would be relevant.

Happiestonthebeach · 01/10/2023 02:01

I have had severe mental health issues since 2019 and at times being under the crisis team (not anorexia)
what I would say is that you are getting some help and support whilst you are in hospital. Hopefully the team can support you and help you overcome this. I know it’s shit- but just minute by minute, hour by hour. Explain to the team how terrified you feel and the threat of being placed under section is making you feel worse.Reiterate you are willing to stay but you don’t want to be placed under section and would like to understand why that is an option they are considering when you are prepared to stay voluntarily.
Good luck op.

sarahzbaker · 01/10/2023 02:29

Well people here want you to get better. Whatever the nasty cause of your anorxia. All the love. Get better soon.

KnowledgeableMomma · 01/10/2023 02:49

You are in the right place and I am soooo proud of you for seeking help. I think the staff is being honest with you and letting you know everything that could happen. Let this be a motivator instead of consequence.
Your family does need you home but they need you WELL. Take this time to be surrounded by people who can help you so that you can go home feeling better.

EliflurtleTripanInfinite · 01/10/2023 03:06

Yes your family needs you at home, but more importantly your DC need you to get through this. There's obviously something that triggered you to go into hospital for help. Maybe that thing is bad enough that they believe for your own welfare you need to stay. Maybe it's for a positive reason, that they really think an inpatient stay will make a difference for you right now. It's more important long term to your DC that you are safe and well rather than at home in this moment in time.

I can see how being told that would be really anxiety provoking rather than motivating, but you came in for a reason and the people that are qualified to make these calls have said this might be necessary. It may have been said so you won't try and discharge yourself, as in it you do we will have to apply to keep you here. It sounds like you're in a bad place mentally, sometimes it's hard to acknowledge in yourself that things really are that bad, but maybe they are and this is what you need.

Nyancat · 01/10/2023 03:11

Why not try to see it not as a consequence or a threat but as a commitment from the team. A commitment that they will provide care and treatment if you are struggling to do it alone, that they are as committed to your recovery as you are and are working for you, not against you.

RLmadmum · 01/10/2023 03:21

Stay strong OP ❤️

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