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To think he handled this completely wrong?

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Alittlebitofthat1 · 01/10/2023 00:23

Hi all
My partner and I were just getting into bed and my ipad was on my side of the bed. We don't live together. The duvet was folded over slightly and it was half covered. I was looking at the bed and saw my partner start climbing over my side of the bed to get off, I told him to stop but his knee went straight down onto the screen and smashed it. We heard a huge crack and he looked straight away at what he could do. I knew it was an accident so I wasn't angry etc I just left him to it but I did sigh quite loudly. He said 'I'll fix it im sorry'

After 10 minutes he throws it over to my side of the bed and says 'I've booked you a screen repair'
'Be a bit more careful next time'

To me it sounded like he was trying to make it out to be my fault for having the iPad on the bed, and he's annoyed he's had to pay out to fix my mistake? He is trying to claim it was completely covered from view when it certainly wasn't, he just didn't see it. It is in a bright yellow case and we have white bedsheets!!

I then defended where it was on the bed because I was shocked he was trying to make it my fault and he ended up calling me a bitch out of nowhere. I told him he wasn't getting in bed with me after he'd called me a bitch and now he's taken his stuff and gone home.

Am I going absolutely mad or is he being a complete ass

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Original poster
Alittlebitofthat1 · 01/10/2023 00:24

Also fully aware this is a very trivial and silly problem to have but I'm just wondering about others' opinions

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Mummy08m · 01/10/2023 00:27

It's not trivial that he called you a bitch.

He's both clumsy and very rude. Doesn't sound like a great partner

hotcandle · 01/10/2023 00:27

Complete ass.

A simple apology would have done, and it sounds like you were being reasonable and understanding in your reaction.

Don't message him first. Let him wake up embarrassed and wait for an apology.

I can't stand people who huff. It's my number 1 turn-off, so the fact he ran away back home huffing would be enough for me to cool things off.

MeinKraft · 01/10/2023 00:30

It's not trivial. He sounds horrible. Don't let him move in.

Stars1979 · 01/10/2023 00:30

I think you have every right to be a little upset if something of yours gets damaged by someone else. Great he booked you a screen repair shame it came with that comment......blaming you. Im sure if he just said sorry ive booked you a screen repair, would you not have been ok and maybe even said, its ok i can it was partly hidden just to make him feel less bad. However it escalated and he called you a bitch......out of nowhere? Is that normal for him? I wouldnt accept that....so i think yes perhaps the comment he made wasnt great but the bitch comment is way beyond anything i would find ok.

HakunaMatiłda · 01/10/2023 00:31

Calling names and stropping off when in the wrong is the start of the spiral.

SkaneTos · 01/10/2023 00:32

HE should have been more careful!

Backagain2 · 01/10/2023 00:33

I feel like the iPad was poorly placed since you don’t live together and he probably wasn’t as familiar with where you put things as he would be if you lived together.

But once he called you a bitch that totally put him in the wrong and escalated everything. Very aggressive behaviour.

ImustLearn2Cook · 01/10/2023 00:36

It’s not trivial that he called you a bitch. How dare he have such low regard for you! I felt angry when reading how he spoke to you.

determinedtomakethiswork · 01/10/2023 00:56

Oh my God, yet another fucking loser. Get this man out of your life. He's awful.

pictoosh · 01/10/2023 00:59

Is he the type of person that just can't accept or cope with being in the wrong?

IslandAngle · 01/10/2023 01:00

His fault, and then he called you a bitch.
He’d be going straight in the bin.

14blackcrows · 01/10/2023 01:10

What a twat!

sarahzbaker · 01/10/2023 01:27

Not good

ThinWomansBrain · 01/10/2023 01:29

get rid - the doing it in the first place/blaming you/calling you a bitch/going home without apologising for any of that...

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