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New car woes.

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MM1972 · 30/09/2023 21:31

I'm getting a new work car. It's electric and has negligible BIK tax.

I believe my partner got a little jealous and decided to replace the main family car too. At the minute every penny (and more) that comes into the house is spent. I disagree with most of the expenditure which includes entertainment packages from Sky, BT and Netflix. I honestly think Netflix is enough. Other unnecessary things include craft gin club and various charitable donations. They also had graze boxes and pies being delivered. Yes meat pies in the post. There were cards and unsecured loans totalling 25k.

The main family car was old but was always serviced in the main dealers and was trouble free although had 143k miles. They were offered £800 for it. I have seen similar older cars being advertised at over 4800 Euro in Republic of Ireland. I'm sure we would have got a lot more than 800 selling privately. So sure that I offered to buy the car and sell it myself. I also offered that I would go car less and bike to work if the main family car failed.

Too late. The car was swapped today in spite of my protests. It was bought from a small dealer with negligible service history. On way home an engine warning light came on.

I don't know what to do. I paid a a lot over the years to have the other car maintained. It had nothing wrong with it.

AIBU to be furious?

OP posts:
Daffidale · 01/10/2023 00:15

You’ve got bigger problems here than the car

This doesn’t sound like a partnership where you make joint decisions and your opinion is respected.

I don’t understand how they sold the joint family car against your wishes. Or why you would have had to buy a car off them that you had paid to maintain. Well I guess I do understand. Your partner sounds like a real piece of work. Materialistic, bad with money, and not respectful of you. Being jealous of your new work car is not a nice look either.

I think you need a bigger discussion here though about whether you are really partners in this, and how to manage the family finances.

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