My H regrets our DD's name

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He doesn't like the name anymore and wishes we'd gone for his choice of name and he thinks I pushed hard to get ' my ' name.

It wasn't really like that and we both agreed we like the name, although his first choice was an important family name.

He keeps bringing it up and it makes me really sad. He says it's my fault.

' baby ' is turning 2 soon, so this is an ongoing thing.

What can I do ? I'm the kind of person who easily takes the blame and I just feel so bad.

I’d ask him outright what his endgame is, what is he hoping to achieve berating you?
Are you pregnant again? Is his game plan getting first dibs on baby #2’s name and vetoing your choices.

Well he just needs to lump it because she is almost 2 and her name is her name now.
I would refuse to talk to him about it anymore

You don’t need to do anything

He’s being ridiculous.

Tell him you don’t want to hear anymore about it

If you did railroad him onto the name then I have less sympathy for you, but a 2 year sulk is pathetic.

My mother had Michelle picked out for months before I was born. When I popped out she changed her mind and I got a different name. Bizarrely if people get my name wrong, they will call me ‘Michelle’.

I don't think it's too late to change the name. I did at 2 years with no problems.
However, you like it. You gave birth and he needs to get over it.

You changed your child's name at 2? Why?

Honestly it's way too late it's her name and no one should be making such decisions for her. At 2 it's no longer a parents name to change.

It was an unusual name when we chose it but then became popular due to a film.
She was laughed at by a couple of teenagers.
I did not want her to be bullied for her whole life so I changed it!
She has no memory of it and is a happy child. No regrets whatsoever.

Well he shouldn’t have agreed, too late now

He is being ridiculous. People place far too much store on names; it’s basically a point of administrative convenience, so we can distinguish one person from another. But you give a child a name and - beyond a certain point (and I’d say at maximum, a year) - that’s her name. Her name. Hers. After that point, whether you like it or not is irrelevant. He needs to get over it - and quickly.

I bet one million pounds he's an arsehole in other ways too.

Tell him to stop mithering and if that's his biggest problem in life he's a very very lucky man indeed.

“DH you have mentioned this repeatedly over the past 2 years, what are you trying to achieve with raising it again? I have nothing new I can say about this, we can’t turn back time”.

He agreed. She's 2, you can't change it so stop complaining. He can name the baby that comes out of his genitals.

is There a compromise with a nickname?

Does he use the actual phrase, “your fault”? If so, that’s really horrible, controlling and manipulative to make you feel you’ve done something wrong. What else does he do and say to make you feel bad?