Bad hangxiety again

[Onslow1985]

Just to give a bit of background on my current situation/headspace. I suffered my fifth miscarriage one month ago and booked a last minute trip away abroad with my girls which fell over my birthday. Amazing time, drank far too much on my birthday and partied/danced all day long. There are some grayed out areas at times so the next day I got my usual hangxiety and had to seek some reassurance from friends that I was okay. I think it has been intensified given what I have recently been through and I haven’t been able to shake it for about a week & had really bad chest tightness, bad sleep etc especially since drunken photos/videos now being sent of me which are not flattering at all, causing me to again seek reassurance from my friends & I can tell they are becoming really fed up so now worried I’ve put a downer on the whole trip. Not sure what answer I’m seeking, just need to rant it out or maybe it’s time for me to stop drinking as my friends say the most annoying thing is my hangxiety the next day and not my actual drunkenness. Or do I need to cut myself some slack after what I’ve recently been through and my friends should understand that?

Ps. I also have covid since coming back so maybe this has added to the situation?

I'm another who has stopped drinking because of it. It was getting worse and worse and I would still feel shit on Monday after what I wouldn't describe as not a heavy night.

It's been 6 months for me now and I do not regret it for one moment.

This is also why I stopped. Sometimes I would be a bad drunk and sometimes not but always the hangxiety and I just thought it wasn't worth it anymore. I feel so much better now and don't miss it.

Sounds like there's a fair few among us!

It's hard when you're the only one in a group and everyone else seems to be enjoying themselves/are happy drunks. But honestly, give it a go. It's been several years for me and has revolutionised my weekends/general mental health. I hate to say it but I think age is a factor as well - we don't bounce back like we used to.

I also gave up due to the black outs and beer fear!

The hangovers were getting worse, the anxiety lasting longer, less able to remember the details of the night... it just wasn't worth it to me any more.

After a particularly bad night, I quit. I didn't try to have one or two, as I'm an all or nothing kind of person (hence the binge drinking). And it's changed my life.

I've been sober for just over 4 years, and I'd never go back. I'm a better mum, partner, person... I like myself better!

If you can't commit to quitting indefinitely, why not set yourself a challenge, no alcohol for 12 weeks for a reset, then see how you feel?

I feel for you right now, beer fear is no joke

Same! Long time crippling anxiety sufferer, minimal anxiety now I'm sober!

The anxiety is definitely lasting longer, the covid isn’t helping either haha.

I’m kicking myself too because my friend organised the trip and we luckily ended up with business class on the way home (wasn’t planned). I was hungover and managed to eat all of the lovely food and have one alcoholic drink but couldn’t sleep on the comfy seat due to anxiety not letting me. Convincing myself they think I’ve wasted the opportunity now and annoyed at myself too.

This is me if I drink Prosecco. So now I don’t.

I think you’ve had a hard time OP, so don’t be hard on yourself but I think you and I should both probably drink less, and we’d feel better for it.