To get irritated about "I didn't want to read and run"?

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I mean, if you do, who knows that you read it and ran? It seems so silly and strange and pointless really to write it.

People usually say it when someone is having a shit time.

I know it’s boring to read but it probably helps the OP feel heard.

Plus the fact it acts as a bump

@Diddleflop you do seem rather over invested in this don't you? To have to actually look me up ha ha ha.

For what it's worth, I always use Siri to type a reply, which halves, no, actually quarters the time I spend on it.

So yes, it's a read and run .

Totally agree op. Irritates the hell out of me. People who use it sound full of their own self-importance. It's such a trite hackneyed phrase.

Oh yes I find this extremely rude, what's worse is they end up posing a big long reply. So they didn't actually read and run. To me, and I know it's just my opinion, it says "my life is so much more important than yours that I don't have the time to post a detailed reply".

I don't think so… I think it just means that you don't want somebody to feel you haven't invested enough time in something so big. Yet, despite that, you still wanted to give them something in case it might help.

How about saying something along the lines of, 'no advice, just wanted to say sorry you're having a hard time' - or one of the dozens of possible permutations of that? You know, make it sound a bit personal and sincere instead of trotting out that tired old stock phrase?

@SlipSlidinAway I agree with that. I think it's the stock phrase thing that really gets on my nerves.

Exactly. Especially when they’re aren’t many replies.

I see it as a kindness

It takes time to say that so I think it shows support, even if the person responding doesn't have the tools to help.

@SpideyWoman1 - do you really think trotting out a MN cliche makes someone sound supportive? As I just said, saying something original, albeit simple, sounds much more sincere.

It's a way of bumping a thread and offering a couple of supportive words at the same time.

Yes - and there are more sincere sounding ways of doing that.

I'm sure there are, but not all posters have the time or skill to craft expertly sensitive responses.

@OnAFrolicOfMyOwn - doesn't need to be expertly crafted, just, you know, something that sounds like you mean it rather than something cringey off the shelf. Or even just write 'bump' if that's the intention.

I usually say 'No advice but bumping for you'. However, not everyone will view 'didn't want to read and run' as cringey, some probably think it sounds sympathetic - because we're all different.

I'd hope however it was phrased, the OP would realise it was kindly meant.

@OnAFrolicOfMyOwn - yes, you're probably right and the original poster hopefully will think it's kindly meant. Just, as a 3rd party reading that comment, it makes me cringe as I feel it reeks of insincerity and self-importance. I much prefer your comment.

It’s such a MN cliché that borders on twee and as such rather meaningless, but I can kind of understand it when the poster is bumping the thread but when they post some kind of supportive comment anyway, that I find odd.

As a PP said, there’s nothing wrong with not replying.

I agree with @SlipSlidinAway

There are so many ways to show support, instead if using the tired old phrases you hear on mumsnet....over and over again

It's on the same level as those Facebook standard replies like "so adorable! ❤️ that I find lazy.