I’m nearing 40 and have a 3 year-old conceived through IVF. We’d love a sibling for her but one has yet to show up naturally. We’re incredibly fortunate to have 4 embryos frozen and have been planning to try transferring them this autumn.
My therapist asked how many we would transfer at a time, saying, ‘Don’t have twins! You’d never cope!’
Am I being over sensitive in feeling like this was a crappy thing for her to have said? It felt unnecessary as I have zero desire to have twins and we definitely won’t be transferring more than one embryo at a time. In fact I’m quite nervous about the (unlikely) possibility of an embryo splitting. Not because I think I wouldn’t cope but because it would just be really, really hard work - especially with an older child as well - and not very enjoyable in the early years. Hats off to any parents of multiples reading!
A major reason I started therapy was due to self-esteem issues. I’m a SAHM currently but wouldn’t say I struggle with parenting particularly, beyond the usual frustrations, and this is not something I’ve ever talked about much in therapy. So I’m not honestly sure what particular aspect she felt I wouldn’t cope with or why she felt the need to point this out. It’s not as if I’m very young or inexperienced.