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DS friends cabbie?

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Bluebirthdaycard · 30/09/2023 15:32

My Ds has just started college 3 weeks ago. I work early hours of morning weds to sat, so am available to take him to and from the train station from our village except on a Thurs morning when mil does it. He phones me every time he needs picking up but the problem is even in the three weeks he's been there I've also given lifts to his friends 5 times. These friends don't live in our village so I'm having to go out of my way to drop them off. I got so peeved after last night's excursion I said to Ds "are you ever going to phone me to say you're getting a lift home?". I allowed my ds to attend a non local college as I knew that I was able to get him to and from the train station and didn't want to rely on any lifts (not including mil who is a family member), so you would assume his friends parents would be able to do the same? I was also told on weds that one of these friends is now on the same timetable as my Ds after next week and wants to make lift arrangements. Now I'm (sort of) willing to do this if the other parents put in 50% but I'm not sure if this is going to be the case but I don't know what to do as I don't want to cause any issue between my Ds and his friend.

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Hiddenvoice · 30/09/2023 17:58

What age are the boys? Are they not able to make their own way home from the station?
If ds is 17/18 then I would be suggesting your ds makes arrangements to get home safely. He could arrange with friends to share a taxi or arrange with parents for everyone to take turns.
If he’s 16 then I’d suggest him making it clear to his friend that you can’t take him home every night so need to create a schedule- would you be able to contact the parents?

Failing all this, I’d just pick up ds and remind him to explain to friends that you can’t be driving them all home, he’s the one that’s suggested it to them in the first place.

Bluebirthdaycard · 30/09/2023 18:12

Thank you for replying, Ds and friends are 16. My dh is on fbook with his dad I think, so they are contactable. I'll wait and see what they are suggesting and if it's reasonable. My guess is words gone around that I'm at home in the day, so I'm fair game but weds, Thurs and Fri I'm up at 2.40am for work, so when I get the call to pick him/them up at 5, if I've not had a nap I'm a little tired. But then you could argue that if x parents have been at work all day, they're tired too. As long as it's met half way, I'll be ok with it.

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Gifgirl · 30/09/2023 18:19

Why can they not all get themselves home?

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