I Know I Am Being Unreasonable But Anyway....

[WestCountryLass]

....my 6 year old son came out of school today looking very sad and tearful and when I asked him what was wrong he said:

"X said he didn't like my present, it was rubbish..." and then he sobbed his little heart out.

Last night he had been to a party and I had chosen the gift (Enid Blyton storybook and another book of 5 minutes stories for boys) and obviously the birthday boy had told my DS he thought his present was rubbish.

I feel so sad for my DS, he is a sensitive soul and it is one of those moments where he is learning to toughen up and I do feel a little bit cross with the birthday boy because it wasn't a very nice thing to say, but I can totally see that he is 6 and 6 year olds say thigns without thinking and it is my issue because of how my son feels so I would not say or do anything.

Any DS has said he is going to tell the birthday boy that it wasn't a nice thing to say and if he doesn't want the books he can give them back

VVVQV, I like your style

BS, I think we thought you were being sarcy!

Here's the solution..

Buy him some plastic tat from the pound shop next time, easier for you, requires no thought, no expense, its a toy so everyone's happy.

Ta daaaa!

never mind silly things like books...what were you thinking

Oh no, now I am feeling sorry for broccoli as well as west country's ds.

Broccoli, I think that Scruffy and West Country thought that you were being sarcastic about wrapping your child in cotton wool hence their responses.

I read it as an affirmation that you felt very sorry for west country's ds and couldn't bear the thought of anyone hurting your little one. Correctomundo?!

By the way, my four year old is polite enough to thank everyone for presents and it has been drilled into him how much it hurts people if their present is not appreciated. So at 6 there is no excuse.

Ags that's how i took what broccoli meant too. She was thinking how she would feel if in OPs shoes

Oh dear. It's not always the parents...

DS3, when he was six, had a Garfield cake made for him by my aunt. He took one look at it and passed some derogatory comment because it had a flat garfield, rather than an actual cat shape sat on the top of the cake (he'd seen lots of fabulous cakes made by this aunt, but obviously not one with flat items rather than 3D models and he was expecting an actual cat shape iykwim).

I was mortified by his remark, but thankfully aunt laughed it off (having watched me blush furiously and "have words" with DS3.)

Sorry BS! Just read it as dripping with sarcasm in typical mumsnet way.

Darn these ruddy internet forums

Always expecting an attack...(looks over my shoulder in a slightly dodgy way and walks faster..but not too fast...for fear of drawing attention to oneself).

LOL Scruffy. They are coming to get you!

Hope Broccoli hasn't gone to bed feeling misunderstood. Come back Brocc!

{guilt} emoticon.

Personally I blame ScruffyTeddy's parents for her being nasty to Broccoli...

YANBU for being upset, how horrible for your little boy BUT even though it was bad behaviour and bad manners on the part of the other boy, it doesn;t mean his parents taught him this, that they're bad parents or that the set out to teach their children ingratitude. chances are the mother would be mortified if she knew.

despite our best efforts, our children are not angels and can behave badly at times when you're not aware or there to reprimand them. this is life and while it is hurtful for a little boy, no doubt about it, it's part of life and he'll be hurt in future as all our children will. i would do nothing more about the situation and let it blow over.

Exactly Soopermum1, I know that and I wouldn't do anything about it, just know I am being unreasonable because my DS is sad

Nope. Not sarcy.

I really am that hormonal and hysterical about the idea of children having hurt feelings!

I wasnt NASTY to Broccoli! I said I thought the child seemed ungrateful and should have had better manners..just happened my comments were wrongly directed at someone who wasnt saying otherwise. Im sorry if you thought I was being an arse Broccoli..I wasn't even taking this thread all that seriously!

I think brocolli was being genuine, i know that i will be upset whenever dd gets blanked, someone upsets her etc, in this instance of the OP she was justified, the present receiver sounds like a ungratefull little bastard tyke.

Slight hijack - Brocolli, how is your dog?

No one was NASTY!

This thread is lurching wildly!

My dog is doing really well, thanks LEM. Full of energy and eating well. She even lost a little weight while she was on the chicken and rice so she's looking good (she tends to get a bit podgy while I'm preggers as I can't taker her running or walk as far with her!)

Group hug anyone?

{throws herself at Broccoli} in a clumsy oaf type way.

Ah bugger, did I miss it? The group hug I mean! And I was so nice about bloody everyone! I always miss the good bits.

I'll hug you Ags.

'scuse the garlic.