My mother is currently looking for a particular type of hot water bottle. She's just looking for a plain one without any covers. The covered hot water bottles are everywhere in the shops and not the plain hot water bottles.
I could probably search online and I did see them online and some shops. I could step in and buy one online for her. I usually do help her with a lot of things but right now, I just don't know about it. I think I want to step back from helping her.
She launches a verbal attack on me the week before last. I was filling the doshwasher and it was full, it was very full and more than full. The top rack and bottom rack was overloaded. My mother was preparing her breakfast and I was going to start the dishwasher. She asked me not to put it on yet probably in the hope of getting her breakfast bowl and mug in. I mentioned that it's very full now and no more will get in. Like, I had stuff even packed at the sides on the racks and even more stuff in any free gaps available and in the middle of the bottom rack. It really was as full as it was going to get. This resulted in a pure rage from her to me where she was shouting abuse at - LET ME GET MY FUCKING BOWL IN - YOU WILL LET ME DO THAT YOU FAT BITCH YOU and on and on and on and on and on she went til I left the room. It was way over the tope for what it was and she never apologised to me at all. She had no right to rage at me. She could have placed her breakfast stuff aside for the next load. It made no sense. The rage wasn't the first of its kind from her. I was utterly gutted with her response. It was way over the top. She had no right to shout at me like that. Imagine if I launched an attack on her insulting her? I didn't and never did.
I help her a lot. She doesn't appreciate a lot that I do. I erected a clothes line last year for her and a few months ago she wrote off work and claimed she saw my brother out the back for hours with a rope putting up that clothes line. A while later I had a look at the clothes line and it was the same line that I put up with the exact same knots that I used. My brother never did that work but she wrote off my contribution. It wasn't the first time she that.
I'm thinking what is the point of helping her right now and searching for a hot water bottle when she will only rage and temper tantrum to me whenever she feels like exploding to me.