Aibu to think this person is trying to be superior?

[KateMiddletonsExtensions]

I'm on a work group WhatsApp. I'm also on a WhatsApp group with a few people who go to football. The team's having a nightmare season and the manager and owner are clueless. I posted a Dumb and Dumber meme in the group during tonight's awful match. Or thought I had. By accident I had posted it in the work WhatsApp where it's someone's 30th birthday.

I didn't realise until this message was posted in the group chat -

"Not sure that’s appropriate Kate. Not sure I understand it. No need for an explanation."

The person who wrote that is known for sniping at people.

I removed it and replied to the whole group saying what it is and that it's sent in error to the wrong group. I didn't apologise (I may have done if she hadn't been so smug) but I did then say "thanks for the alert Sharon" and then said I hoped the birthday woman had had a good day (had already wished her a happy birthday first thing this morning in the group).

I just feel she was trying to make me look stupid. Anyone can make a mistake.

It sounds to me like she's drawing your attention to a mistake you might have missed which could have been misconstrued without putting you under pressure to explain what it was meant for...

So I wouldn't have taken that badly. I'd be glad she pointed it out so I could delete. But it sounds like you have other issues with her outside of this which is what's forming your opinion.

You are really over thinking it, YABU

@Lavender14 I don't think she thought I'd made a mistake as in posting in the wrong group. I do think she thought I meant to post it there and was out of order and decided to announce it to everyone. Otherwise there would have been no need for the arrogant "no need for an explanation".

Hmm it could be perceived as funny but it also might not be, as PP describes. Hard to gauge over text sometimes. I don’t think your response was bad though. I’d just leave it now, don’t overthink anymore.

I think her tone is clearly stuck up and superior.

I’d have been tempted to reply “wrong group sorry” to the group as a whole, and then quote Sharon’s message and reply “? What are you on about?”

Or simply “?” if you have self restraint.

You made a mistake. Someone pointed it out. Her response was a bit snippy but ultimately she had no way of knowing it was an accident at that time. You deleted it and explained.

Nothing to see here.

I think she’s alerting you to something that someone might misread and question a bit more.
Id just have replied with “oops wrong chat” then deleted it. I wouldn’t put too much thought into it.

She sounds oddly serious and could have sent a private message instead of the group chat. Avoid her, what a snake.

She sounds like she's got a rod up her arse. No need for the "not appropriate" stuff. It's not like you posted a dick pick. She could have said it in a relaxed way without making the person who made the mistake feel like a dick. Just no need for it. She's a twat and her jumped up put down was embarrassingly disproportionate to your very minor etiquette breach.

Sorry thought it was posting in my fun friends chat 😘

A man at work was diagnosed with cancer two years ago about this time of year. Not in our work area but he interacted with us all for work purposes. This woman took it on herself to go and visit him at home with another colleague, being the sort of liaison person if you like. I didn't know the severity of the illness (obviously cancer isn't a cold, I don't mean it like that) and asked her how he was and was he being as positive as possible(something like that, I can't be exact but that's the gist). "How positive do you expect a terminally ill person to be?" was her snappy answer, in front of several other people. I had had no information about that or I would not have said it. She did apologise when I pulled her up on it.

Might just be her manner. She doesn’t sound nice generally!

YANBU

People wanna calm down.

I saw a post in a local Facebook group where someone posted about finding a dead cat. Someone reacted ‘haha’. A woman who judging by her profile picture was about 65 - she got about 40 abusive posts before coming on to say that she meant to ‘heart’ react not ‘laugh’ react, they’re really close together and she didn’t notice, and was really upset at the messages. She just got more abuse. People are so eager to stick the boot in before they apply logic and realise there must be an explanation for this.

A mistake happened, someone pointed it out, it was fixed don't think the person probably thought any longer that trying the message

You are now putting your issues onto that person, you can't blame them for you complicating this

was he being as positive as possible?

I was with you on everything until this. I think that's a bizarre question to ask! I would definitely have reacted like her to a question like that.

As I said, I don't remember what I said word for word. I'd no idea how ill this guy was, what his treatment or prognosis was. Even if I was clumsy in what I said, being bawled out in front of colleagues is not an appropriate response.

She was an arse. A simple- did you mean that for this chat would have sufficed. The tone was arsey