DD15 y11 struggles with generalised anxiety, is currently on medication and has recently had Cbt which has helped but wasn’t necessarily for her. She struggles a lot in school mentally, although has a nice small friendship group and friends in every class, her anxiety ruins it completely. She has self harmed for many years and continues to do so and is being supported through Ed psychologist in school, form tutor (who is amazing) and by myself and DH and her friends.
In school however, she can be a bit naughty, nothing awful and behaviour at her school is particularly bad, chairs being thrown at teachers that sort of thing, whereas DD is just a bit chatty and sometimes unfocused and the usual rolled up skirt, jewellery etc.
Despite outstanding school attendance, she does struggle attending and staying in lessons due to her frequent anxiety and panic attacks and walks out of lessons etc hyperventiling and crying and being under general distress. This is expected of her anxiety and Is currently under ADHD and ASD testing too. Some issues have been made with teaching staff and subsequently brought to her year team.
Her year leader however, despite being happy for the naughty chair throwing kids to come to her and deal with them all the time, making jokes with them and sharing sweets, I feel is being a bit harsh on DD. She had told DD to sort it out and has asked “have you tried staying in lesson?” When it is clear DD only left because she was having an intense panic attack.
Today, after going to year leader unable to stay in her English lesson due to a servere panic attack, DD went to her year leader, following the advice she was told by YL to come to her if she can’t stay in a lesson due to anxiety.
YL then decided she has had enough and even though DD followed what she was told to do, started lashing out at DD saying it’s not fair every other student has to go to lesson but DD doesn’t go (due to her high functioning anxiety). Bear in mind a group of popular naughty kids who had been kicked out their classroom were sat in YL’s classroom laughing and sat on their phones eating sweets. YL then proceeded to say INFRONT of the other kids, I don’t think schools for you, you need to consider dropping out!
DD, already upset burst into another round of tears and cried again when she came home. She has strong plans for college, university and career and is predicted to get all 11 GCSEs at grades 7-9
AIBU to think her year leader is being too harsh and to be upset by this?
Please comment your thoughts and be kind with your comments