8 years ago I made two friends at baby group. Let's call them B and E It was great in the early days when we would meet once a week or more and have a good catch up. Then B went back to work and E (who was always a bit flakey) suddenly couldn't hardly ever make our meet ups. I got the message and made my own plans for that day. Although once I did then bump into E in the park with her own group of friends. A bit awkward, but to be honest I don't have many friends and am used to rejection. I half expected these friendships to drift away with time anyway.
However nowadays , in the group chat we started to organise a get together of just us, without kids now they are older. E is still a bit flakey and can cancel at the last minute, but when this has happened B and me have gone ahead on our own with the plans.
When we are all together there's lots of "I love you girls, so good to keep in touch etc".
However it still seems apparent to me if B can't make a meet up E finds all the excuses under the sun to not just meet with me. She never acts like she dislikes me when we're together, but she must do because I get all the excuses.
B is also very slow to reply and usually the messages go -
E lets meet up
Me sounds good to me
B.... No response
But if she does respond it goes ahead. If not nothing happens
It's happened again recently that E has put a feeler message out in the group to see if we want to meet up. B hasn't responded and neither have I because what is the point. I don't know whether to carry on bothering with these friendships because although we get on well when we're together, we don't have much in common other than we had kids at the same time.
Or is this just how friendships are and I need to play along or have no friends.
I feel a bit hurt about it tbh, if she doesn't like me why keep asking the group to meet up, why not just message B privately.
(I am probably neuro divergent, if it wasn't obvious)