Stevenage Secondary School Help - Bullying

[DesperatePanda]

Am posting here because I’m desperate.

DD13 is in Year 9. She is a quiet, kind, bright girl, who has struggled massively with making friends. There were a couple of girls she hung around with last year, but they tended to leave her out a lot and now ignore her. Another girl DD has tried to talk to and was one of the nicer ones barely talks to her and another is bullying.

DD is in tears every single night. School have offered counselling, which she had a bit last year and will start again soon. She could definitely do with confidence-building, but at the end of the day, DD says there just aren’t any girls she wants to be friends with. They’re all popular according to DD and won’t want to know her.

We are thinking of changing schools, but are aware it could make things worse. If your quiet child is at a Stevenage (or nearby) secondary, how are they getting on? I don’t want to say which one DD is at just yet.

Not in stevanage but could have wrote your post. I have finally bitten the bullet and tomorrow my dd starts a new school,
weighing it up it was either keep her at her school and be bullied, ignored and left out or move her, so I have. She has just started year nine and for two years has had an awful time, she is also very shy and quiet and tried to intergrate into several groups but the not talking to and bullying her have broken her. Am aware the same thing may happen at a new school but I have to try something, heartbreaking isn’t it.

How could things be worse exactly? Move her.

Move her OP. As soon as possible.

We moved our child. It was a v tough decision but worked out right for us. Good luck.

Thanks all.

@Iwasjustasking sorry to hear you’ve been in the same situation. It really is heartbreaking. Wish your DD well for tomorrow.

@DisquietintheRanks I suppose I’m thinking it could still be as bad, seeing as she is quiet and lacking in confidence, but would be worse being the new girl.

One of the schools we’re considering, she knows a few girls and was friends with them in the infants, but had to move primary schools (completely unrelated story). It would be devastating to DD if they now didn’t want to know her. No idea why I think they wouldn’t, but I guess friendship groups are established.

@Knifeandforkwhocares good to hear it all worked out for you.