Do you have Shit Life Syndrome?

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Do you think it's a thing?

I'm lucky in that I usually enjoy a lot of my daily life but then the odd time, the overall trajectory gets me down. Didn't grow up with my parents. Complicated family dynamics. I have a serious chronic illness since childhood and now as an adult numerous health issues.

Infertility due to my health is really devastating me at the moment, hence the thread. I would have loved a child of my own.

Does it sound like I have Shit Life Syndrome?

Do you have it?

I think I have Shit Life Syndrome engraved on my DNA, and it sure panned out that way in life experience:

Nursed my Dad through cancer until he died.
Nursed my Mum through cancer twice, and then she dropped dead of something else.
Divorced. Amicable but ex has unpredictable bipolar.
Lots of terrible dating relationships with wannabee cocklodgers. Now happily single and never going back to dating ever again.
Terrible relationship with eldest child. He has brought police, social services and school complaints to my door, over and over again.
Youngest child has autism, anxiety and dyspraxia and is home educated.
I have 19 medical conditions which are mostly incurable rare genetic disorders. I had an accident a few years ago, and then botched surgery. The surgeon paralysed my left hand and arm, and caused terrible nerve injury. Other surgeons have been unable to fix it.
I have had 15 surgeries in the last decade and more to come. My hair falls out with every general anaesthetic procedure, and it just makes me feel old and sad.
Tumour in right hand removed recently, and now have nerve damage. Genetic condition diagnosed as a result of these investigations and I have had 30+ tumours removed from my body in the last 15 years.
Inherited family business I do not want and I am too ill to run properly. It is a money burner and constant worry.
Ehlers Danlos syndrome type 3, but doctors think I am type 4 signs.
Rare brittle bone disease affecting both feet. Doctors want to amputate 2 toes as the bones are shattered with untreatable fractures, and both have Morton's neuroma so big it is untreatable. Worried about learning to walk afterwards.
Surgeons want to amputate my damaged fingers that are clawed up from surgery gone wrong. My fingers are frozen and painful, and no other treatment is possible.
Unable to tolerate opiates and pain killers of all sorts. Therefore deal with terrible vascular damage, stump pain from rib removal and nerve damage in upper body daily.

I hate the constant stress, the loneliness of battling everything, the burden of working when too unwell, the medication keeping me alive, the fact I have to face body part removal, the menopause, parenting on 10% energy, the lack of energy to go out much and the fact there is no prospect of anything changing in the future.

I am usually quite good at solving other people's problems...but not my own it seems.

That's a lot, @scoobydoo1971 I hope you are okay.

My understanding of shit life syndrome is completely different. It’s the environment you’re in- the odds are stacked against you.
So someone living in a food desert in a damp house on an unsecured tenancy with no qualifications so unemployed or on a zero hours contract is likely to go to the GP with anxiety but it’s the shit life that’s the problem not the anxiety.
My dearest friend has the opposite- several awful things have happened to her- 2 deceased siblings, mother with enduring mh problems, csa, inappropriate (large age gap) relationship when she was a teen, fertility problems. But she’s always been well housed, educated, interesting and fulfilling career, tools to recognise what had gone in previous relationships and marry a good man. And money.
It’s not about bad luck it’s more systemic.