Hello Mumsnetters, I’m really interested to hear your thoughts. I’ve just turned 34, always wanted children, ideally one before the age of 35 because of all the risks I’ve read about trying later in life.
So it’s now the no.1 thing on my mind. Has been for about 6 months.
I’m in a stable job, good pay, good support network and I own a flat with my partner. I’m also the healthiest and fittest I’ve ever been.
My other half is 38, also in a stable job though earns less than me, not sure if that’s relevant. We’ve been together 4 years, very happy.
I’ve told him how I feel about really wanting a child. I’m getting more and more anxious about it but I’m trying not to seem too pushy.
I’d really like to start trying but he’s not too sure. He’s not against the idea but has some worries, things like ideally we’d be in a bigger place (it’s only a small 1 bed) and he’d be further on in his career, perhaps with a bit more pay. He’s also just set up a small business.
He keeps telling me not to worry, and that all his friends didn’t have kids until they were 38 and older, and it’s the norm now. So we've got plenty of time.
I don’t want to wait until then though. He says let's keep talking about it.
So my ask is, do I need to chill out about it? AIBU?
Do I have a few more years to play with? Are the risks you read about online true or is it just scaremongering? I can’t find any solid information on the NHS website but the more I read about complications etc, the more I want to start trying now.