to expect my sister not to drop me because she has had a massive redundancy payment

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and is scared that I might expect some of the £1200.00 back that I gave her over the course of a year about 6 years ago.

Her circumstances were not great back than, poorly paid job and break up of a relationship etc. Over the course of a year or two I probably gave her about £1200 or more just to help her out and then wrote it off because I knew there was no way she would be able to pay it back at that time.

Now I am a SAHM and in much reduced circumstances. She has just been made redundant with a very favourable package and has suddenly stopped taking my calls. I honestly DONT want any of the money back but I sort of feel a bit resentful that she is avoiding me just in case I do. My parents think she should pay me back at least some of it because things are financially tight for me and she knows it. Honest answers please. I can take it

I would definitely get your parents to speak to her. She needs to be told. Her behaviour is disgraceful and sometimes we need a kick up the ass by our parents. Why do you care as she isn't speaking to you anyway so this can hardly make it worse.

My brother is excatly the same hence I no longer have any contact with him (not just money but selfish on all counts) have not spoken to him for about a year and he has never seen my second daughter (assume he knows but he never bothered)...my life is calmer and happier without him TBH
Some family members are just toxic - OTOH my sister is fantastic

YANBU. She sounds so selfish. I hope she grows up soon.

is she still on her own? maybe she will still struggle for money even with the payment and new job.. or maybe she is depressed?

Could there be a totally different reason for why she has stopped talking to you? If Xmas Eve was the last time did anything happen then?

She is married now, they are both working.

I know it is the redundancy money because she rang me to tell me about it and ask my advice as to whether she should take voluntary redundancy or not. She has good transferable skills and is fairly young. She decided to take it and I can pin point it to that time that she stopped taking my calls. She is in no way struggling for money - big holidays etc. She makes a point of telling my Mum that the money has been been put aside for the future and is untouchable now.

BTW I once asked her for £40.00 back that I had lent her because I was short and she gave it back in extremely bad grace, practically pulling it out of the cashpoint and throwing at me and then storming off - so you see that money is a thorny issue with her. She has never paid my parents back a penny of any money they have ever lent her either.