Is it just me /my child?

[desikated]

I have a toddler (24monthd old)
Last week or two I have found parts of her behaviour incredibly annoying and frustrating: she seems to have little patience or ability to wait; low level whining at anything that isn't immediately as she wants it; meltdowns if something doesn't meet her I fathomable exacting standards (just now because the pear, that she wanted, was maybe given to her the wrong way up?)

I've always been of the unconditional positive regard, trying to understand how frustrating the world must be if you're a toddler etc. but I am feeling just a bit like I have no patience and everyone else children seem.....not like this?

She does have delayed speech. But she signs and her receptive language and understanding is apparently. So that probably doesn't help. She whines and makes noises, clearly trying to 'tell' me something but I haven't a clue and have to go through a list of guesses (all while not asking questions because the private SLT person told us not to ask her questions🤯

Anyway. AGH. Is this 'normal' for a two year old? (I don't have people /family to talk to about this stuff)
Is how I feel vaguely normal? I'm maybe just a very shit mum who doesn't cope well with demands

Sounds like completely typical early toddler behaviour OP.

My DS was a real whiner and it did my head in. They do grow out of it but it's so annoying.

Have you tried using some sign language to help ease her frustration with communication? It’s totally normal behaviour for her age and will get better as her ability to communicate improves (hopefully)

If it isn't too bananas to say I love you all for replying and making me feel less alone.

Thank you - We do do some signs @noseposey and these are useful. And she does try and put two signs together - eg pointing at me / saying mama and then signing book (she wants me to read her a book). I'm learning signs at the same time tho and sometimes I just have no idea what the sign is, but this is a good reminder me for me to keep prioritising this.

Anyway. For whatever reason today pushed all my patience and I had to plaster in that smile that felt very motherland at times. My partner came home and he's doing bath fine and I'm walking the dog and it's quiet. Aaaahhhhhh.

Irrational, illogical dictators, the lot of them!
Reason will not outwit them.
Distraction is your friend.

These are hugely testing times, but luckily also immensely fun at times too.