Have I done the right thing with work?

[sallyannie22]

Tell me I haven't made a mistake!

Recently changed jobs from a fully remote flexible working but incredibly dull job with quite toxic working conditions (lots of bitching within the team etc). There were no prospects or opportunities to progress but I knew the work inside out and it was very easy.

I've started at a new job which is much more fulfilling and I'm learning a lot already. But it means being in the office 3 days a week which I'm really not used to. I've had to put my youngest in nursery for an extra day and I'm relying on dh and family a lot more than I've ever needed to. However it does give me 2 full days off. The people seem lovely and there is a lot of room for progression and in my heart I know it was probably the right move for me long term. The hours and pay are about the same but as I'm having to put dc in nursery more it's upped our expenses a bit.

But predictably I am missing home working (after really being sick of it!) and wondering if I should have held out in my old job for longer. It's too late now as I've already taken the leap but I guess I just want to feel like I've done the right thing. My family encouraged me to go for it as they knew how bored and demotivated I was in my old job but I still feel selfish for putting on them more.

I think you’ve made the right decision but you’re being tough on yourself. It’s a big change so will take a little time to get used to.

You’ll of course miss being at home, having the flexibility and having some more time. This will seem like a big jump and you might feel pretty stressed the days you’re working but it’s a new routine and you’ll find yourself adjusting and settling to it soon.

Keep reminding yourself how unhappy you were at your old job. This job sounds great for you, it’s good to rely on others and you’re definitely not being selfish!

I think you have done the right thing but it is going to take time for you to adjust to a new routine.
You are investing in your future earnings that will benefit your family in the long run.

DH is fine - just doing what he should. As for your family - how much more?
But why waste your life in a dead end job? Sounds like this one is much much better.

Helping out for one of the days that I'm in the office. The other two days dc will be in nursery. In my previous job I kept her home with me on the third day because work was flexible and I could dip in and out and log on when dc were in bed if I needed to. Obviously this removes that flexibility and I think that's the thing I'm worrying about most. However wfh and picking your own hours does rather muffle the lines between work and home life so I guess maybe it's not a bad thing that I'll be out of the house.

I just feel out of my depth at the moment and missing what was easy and familiar.