I’m the eldest of 5, my mum was with my dad for a few months, she got pregnant with me, they split and she raised me alone until I was 4, she met someone else had two kids with him 12 months apart, split when the youngest was 6 months or so. Quickly got back with my dad and had two more. So the youngest two are my full siblings the middle two are half.
We lived in the north east, after the split the middle twos dad moved back to London. Now despite all being raised together for the most part my half brother and sister had a different childhood from my siblings and I. Instead of paying maintenance there dad bought all their clothes, and made sure they were designer, bought them loads of toys all year round. My mum and dad weren’t high earners, we lived in a council house, claimed benefits etc. So 2 of the kids were in lovely clothes etc while 3 were always in charity shop clothes (nothing wrong with this in principle just the situation).
at 7/8 respectively the two half siblings ended up moving in with their dad, he got a job up here and with the offer of their own rooms in a nicer house, nicer area and ultimately more attention. They begged to go there. I was about 12 at the time and recall them screaming to go their dads all the time.
it got to the point where we were lucky to see them once a month.
Now we are all adults, my half siblings both have high paying jobs in London, live in nice flats in nice areas etc.
my siblings and I have stayed up north, none of us gone to uni and much to my mum’s disappointment we all had kids before we turned 20.
My mum thinks the half siblings are the better kids, this drives me wild since she didn’t raise them and they are actually horrible people (shallow, arrogant, half sister thinks she’s the prettiest woman on earth , half brother sleeps with different women every week). But either way, they barely acknowledge her, half sister has all of us blocked (claims we drag her down and damaged her mental health but she has blocked basically everyone from up here), half brother occasionally pops in to see her, maybe once a year.
My mum was diagnosed with cancer this year, already had surgery; now receiving chemo. Her chances look good but she is terrified. Every time I see her she cries thinking she will die before seeing my halfsiblings again. Praising them beyond belief and generally upsetting herself. While I don’t get it or like them I hate seeing her upset. They both know, I told my half brother as I still have his number and he told me he would pass it on. In case he didn’t I found half sisters boyfriend on Facebook and messaged him, he told me he would tell her.
Neither have reached out. No call, no text nothing.
I think they are selfish, arrogant, stuck up and cruel. She was a good mum to them, she never abused them or left them without there is no need for the hate and cutting off.
I’m going to London this weekend for a hen night. I know my half brothers address and I think I know my half sisters unless she moved. I’m half tempted to go round and tell them to get their acts together and stop being selfish.
AIBU think they are massive pricks and super selfish and WIBU to go round and tell them to sort it out as I hate seeing my mam sad?
should I just leave it?