to wonder if people who are very pro-kids at weddings think it's ok if the parent decides not to bring them?

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Since becoming a parent I can entirely understand the rationale that the chance of a civilised happy function, probably with other half and other friends, without the need to be on parent duty is like a free mini break!

Let them enjoy I say!!

It is clearly up to the parents - afterall they have been issued with an INVITATION not a SUMMONS and as such can accept or decline as they wish.

To be honest I'm with Hatrick and others who wouldn't take my 2 to a wedding unless I had no choice - I often see people at weddings I don't see at other times because I live at the opposite end of the country to a lot of my friends and family and I would never be able to catch up with them properly if I took the boys. Plus the boys have a much better time with their grandparents than with me at a wedding!

Our wedding was 'child-friendly', not least because our own 9month old was there! We were surprised how many people chose not to bring their children, but it didn't occur to me to mind. Much as I love their kids, and we went to some lengths to make sure we catered for them (soft play area, buggy space etc) it was my friends I wanted to see, and them I wanted to have the best time possible.