I’ve been dating a woman for over a year now, we are very close in terms of how well we know each other, in a lot of ways she is absolutely perfect and I think a lot of her, I genuinely couldn’t imagine my life without her.
On the flip side, she also has like a ‘second’ personality where she can let me down quite a bit, not really prioritise spending time with me but spends time with everyone else and her life is just a bit chaotic and I have times where I feel that there just isn’t a place for me in her life. I’ve asked her to have some quality time for weeks now and she hasn’t made the time for a ‘date’ as such with me but has been out with friends multiple times on fun days and nights out which has lead to a lot of arguments and has put us in a bit of a rocky place because I just don’t feel wanted and feel a bit rejected at the moment and I don’t really know where we stand relationship wise right now.
Someone new, who I know through mutual friends, randomly messaged me the other day asking if I was single and if I wanted to go out for drinks if I was single. She’s a genuinely lovely woman and a lot of people I know speak very highly of her, she has a lot of the things I look for in someone and for the first time since I met my ‘girlfriend’ (if I can call her that right now) I actually hesitated for a moment on what I actually wanted to do, and the idea of going out on a lovely date with this lovely person actually excited me for a split second.
Things are likely to be even more hectic over Christmas due to my ‘girlfriends’ job, she will have to work 6 days a week and then does a hobby every Sunday so it’ll leave even less time for me than she already has… and every time she lets me down or cancels our plans I do slightly detach more and more from the situation. I know I deserve more and better than what she can offer me right now but the issue I’m having is do I have patience and stick around and wait for things to hopefully settle down after Christmas and just hold onto some hope that she’ll start spending more time with me then or do I just leave the situation how it is and take a chance on someone new that is willing to actually take me on dates, make the time for me but then it’s the unknown of whether that will work or not?
I just want to finally ‘start my life’ with someone, have lovely dates, be treated special and be made to feel important, to go on adventures, lovely weekends away and every time me and ‘girlfriend’ try and do that, something always pops up in her life and she ends up either cancelling or making new plans with other people instead and no matter how much I want to hold onto her because I hope that one day it’ll be worth it and I’ll have my ‘happy ending’ with her, another part of me doesn’t know if that’s realistic and actually going to happen, hence the moving on and taking a chance on someone else