to expect my mum to allow me to call her back?

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OK, this is such a tiny little thing, but it's bugging the life out of me, and I just son't know whether I'm being unreasonable...

My mum calls me several times throughout the day. Mostly, I don't mind this, even though it's usually just to check up on me

But, when she calls, if I'm busy and say 'I'll call you back in two minutes', she gets stressy and says that she'll call me back in 2 minutes.

She says that this is because it saves me the price of the phone call (20P ?) but it just bugs me.

If she says 'two minutes', it's like schychronised watches.... In EXACTLY 2 mintues I will get a call. If I say 20 minutes, it'll be 20 minutes....

What's most annoying is that often, when she calls back, I'm still not ready to talk / finished what I was doing, but she just doesn't understand...

I mean... AIBU and just getting stressed about things that shouldn't even bother me?????

She's slurring because she's tired.

Doh! Silly me

Seriously though, my mum is cold towards me and wonderful towards the kids. She follows me too. When I bought my first house she bought the one next door (never lived in it or anything) that would be too sensible probably.

Then when i'd lived here for a few years she bought and moved into a house in the next street...I dont get her at all. I will never understand my mother!

Exactly, EW....

I don't mind her calling, if it makes her feel happy / more relaxed, I really don't...

But, it often feels like she needs me to need her and gets upset when I don't....

I'm more than happy to chat away - even about quite mundane stuff - no-one needs to die for a phone call round here

I don't mind her saying 'we'd be happy to come down next week if you are free' but what she actually says is 'we'd be happy to come down next week if you can't cope'

As I said, it's not a major thing, and I do sometimes wonder whether I am just being too stressy about it, but then, I hate it when she does something like put the phone down on me because I have dared question her parental skills!!!

ST??? The house next door?

WhY?

It was a brand new estate, she was the one who "found" it and advised us it existed. (dp and I at the time were looking for something to rent but bought instead). I think she was planning to leave her husband but chickened out.

Who knows? She works in mysterious ways my mum.