I co-parent with my ex (using the term 'co-parent' very loosely!) and we have a 1 year old DD.
DD has been ill recently so I took her to the doctors where I was told she had a chest infection and needed a course of antibiotics. I text ex after the doctors to let him know about the chest infection and he thanked me for letting him know.
I then spent the next 24 hours caring for a screaming one year old who was having constant coughing fits and refusing to be put down. She also woke up at 2:30am very unsettled, and didn't go back to sleep until 7am.
I then woke up to a text message from my ex calling me "fucking disrespectful" for not texting/calling him to update him on how DD was doing. Admittedly, he completely slipped my mind as I was so caught up looking after DD, but it's not as if he had text or called me either. I told him that if he was that concerned about DD, he could have contacted me for an update, but he said that it's my "duty as a co-parent" to update him on these things and that he went to bed "waiting for an update", which I think is completely ridiculous since all he had to do was call me.
When I argued that I'm exhausted and calling him slipped my mind, he said if I want his help, I can take her to his house (over an hour away) meaning he wants me to put my sick child in the car and drive an hour on the motorway to get to him. He can't possibly drive to us since he has "car issues". I said I won't be taking her.
Could someone tell me if I'm being unreasonable? He has a way of making me feel like I am being unreasonable and often calls me a bad mum.