To think that saying "I shouldn't have said that in that way" is not an apology?

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Situation at my volunteer role.

Someone told a whole bunch of people a massive lie about me and my reputation has been tarnished. He also shouted at me (very aggressively) at a meeting.

The person who spread this shit has been spoken to by the supervisor. But he has said that although he admits he shouldn't have spoken to me the way he did, he doubts I will get an apology.

Aibu to think that admission of guilt is not the same as an apology?

It’s not an apology, but I kind of prefer it to the mealy mouthed apology without any admission of guilt.

What action is the supervisor taking in relation to his unacceptable behaviour?

An apology that someone makes grudgingly because they’ve been forced to also isn’t an apology.

He's told him that he is turning up to the next group meeting (the one that the guy told the lie to) and he is going to do an announcement to put the record straight.

What Bridge and lemon said.

Obviously I have no idea what this is about, but someone saying the words "I apologise" and not meaning them means nothing. Someone acknowledging they were wrong in the way they expressed them self does sound like it involved some self reflection.

In terms of telling people "a massive lie about you" - that is a different question altogether.

No that's not an apology - is anyone claiming it is?

It actually shows regret which is more than what you get from many verbose apologies

The phrase in your title could be an apology, but not for lying and shouting. If it were a case where the phrasing was the issue, I would count it as regret and I think I would prefer an acknowledgement that someone did me wrong over 'I'm sorry this happened'.