To think faking pregnancy is vile?

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I know someone who claimed to be pregnant after being dumped and went through weeks of pretence and faked a miscarriage. She is over 45 so not a young girl being silly. She has confessed when drunk that she'd made it all up. Other friends seem to have put this down to being broken hearted and have sympathy. I find it really deranged and manipulative and am really grimmer by it. AIBU?

Who do you think is going to disagree with you? Like, really?

Our friends group seem to think it's understandable because she was so upset. I don't get it!

They're her friends so they're being kind. It's clearly not something good or normal.

Thank fuck for that. I thought I was in the twilight zone.

I know a woman who has done this multiple times. Once to the point of faking a very tragic end to a 6/7 month pregnancy.
I don’t know her well, just from around where we live, but I actively avoid her. She seems to think everyone believes her lies too. It’s very odd

It's understandable because she's messed up. It's easier to make excuses but you all know there's a problem. If your a friend then you will stick with them through the mental health issues that come. You don't need to be told your friend in her 40s is faking a pregnancy that it's normal. She needs help. And a lot of help

She is someone I know, not a friend, but she's friendly with others in my social group.

You all know she's a bit broken. If they're her friends they need to help

Well, so far 12% of the people voting on this think the OP is being Unreasonable!

You’re not unreasonable for thinking it’s an abhorrent thing to do. But her actual friends are not unreasonable either for supporting her through this, she’s clearly really struggling.

I wouldn't say vile, I would suggest that she maybe has some sort of mental health issues going on - at the least that should be looked into.

I'll be honest, I wasn't her biggest fan before this because he had a long term partner. I'm not the morals police, and he was clearly an arsehole, but telling him and his partner she was pregnant just felt manipulative.

Is she normally like this or is this a one off? Not condoning her behaviour in any way but sometimes people do things that are very our of character when hurt.

I don't really know her very well to be honest. She's only been here for a year, she moved here last Christmas