To feel so sad I won’t have a husband

[Notalons]

Or more accurately, a marriage, a true love. Ever since I was a teen I wanted to build a life with someone. I did meet some great people but due to childhood issues I never embraced these opportunities and pushed many decent men away. My life has been constantly lonely. I have a son who I adore but obviously isn’t the same. I can’t imagine what it’s really like to share your home with someone you have built a life with. I feel grief over it. Very sad.

Why are you so sure you won't meet a partner in the future?

@Poppyhopscotch ive been lonely all my life, done everything alone. Even if I met someone tomorrow, I’ve lived a lot of life already, certainly wouldn’t be having a ruby wedding anniversary

It's ok to feel sad about not accomplishing something you would have liked to. That's normal, especially when the situation is complex which it sounds like yours is due to negative past experiences.

It's ok to grieve and have those feelings. What I would say, is many people don't have a love of their lives. Many marry for convenience, pressure or their loving marriage turns sour or unhealthy. With a divorce rate of over 40% in the UK, it's important not to over emphasise the benefits of marriage.

You're lonely and it's never too late to change that. But perhaps marriage doesn't have to be the only solution.

There's a similar thread in another section. MN not a good place to seek understanding it seems.

Best wishes OP, nothing I can say to make it better but I know how much it hurts. I hope things change for you.

It’s far better to feel lonely on your own to feeling lonely in a marriage, trust me , you have your son, enjoy what he brings into your life, my kids are my joy!

I have a husband. Honestly they are very over rated

Husband way overrated - easy to say when you tried the goods. 😏