Long story short..
My partner of 8 years has two groups of friends. One group are the sensible ones with wives and kids and businesses/jobs and all in all lovely morally decent people.
The other group are still lovely I mean as respectful as they can be to me. They are nice enough but the only way I can put it is a bad influence. One guy in particular openly cheats on his partner with other women and escorts. He is young and good looking so I don't know why he feels the need but that's not my business.
The problem I have is.. 2 years ago my partner started spending more and more time with this group of friends, particularly the cheater guy. I then find out my partner has had an affair. It was completely out of the blue and our youngest child was only 1 at the time. I was devastated and he was remorseful and after a lot of talking we decided to try and work through it.
For the first year after it happened my partner barely went out and did everything to show me he could be trusted, he spent lots of time with me and the kids and things started to feel like it was going to be ok. A few months ago, my partner started seeing this group of friends again.
He now sees this guy once a week maybe twice, and by no means is it the other guys fault for what my partner did.. but for some reason it triggers me so so much. The things they do get more and more time consuming and when I told my partner that I didn't agree with the way his friend was openly cheating on his partner, he told me I don't know him and can't judge and got really defensive.
Any time they are out together I sit at home and worry and get upset. I don't want to feel like this forever. I at least would expect my partner to agree his friend has shitty morals. He's told me under no circumstances would he ever cut his friend off, not that I've ever implied he should.
I just hate them spending time together and I know it's not my choice, but would you prefer your partner not to be friends with people with such bad intentions and morals?