Last night was a fairly normal evening. DP drinks a lot on the weekend. Drinking at our local pub, some acquaintances invite us both back to theirs for drinks. I decline. DP(40s) (unusually) thinks he would like to go but doesn’t know where they live. He wanders off down the road for 15 minutes and comes back, no idea where the ‘party’ is. Another girl we are drinking with, let’s call her Jane (18) offers to show him when she goes home. I tell him not to be ridiculous but leave it at that.
I leave DP, Jane and another male friend to have last drinks and smoke. This is common. I got to bed 2ish. I always ask Jane to text me when she gets home so I know she’s home safe ( she doesn’t have far to go). By 2.50 I WhatsApp her to check, she confirms she’s home and apologised for forgetting to text. All good, I go to sleep. DP gets into bed at 5.30am, waking me up. Something seems odd. I quietly check Messenger/WhatsApp for any communication from him in the meantime, and see DP was online at 5.19. Gut feeling makes me check, Jane was online at 5.09.
When he wakes up I ask him what he did for 3 hours. He can’t remember, I ask if he went to the party, he thinks he did, but can’t remember anything. I message Jane to see if he went, she says she showed him where to go on her way home. I message another friend who was there, she says DP never turned up.
By lunchtime, DP has concluded that Jane took him to the wrong place, there was no one there, and he turned round and came home. That doesn’t take 3 hours!
I can’t help but watch WhatsApp all day. I notice both DP and Jane are online within a few minutes of each other, particularly at the time he ‘remembered’ what happened. I should add that Jane is an employee of mine, DP has no reason to have her phone number, however he is a social media tart and adds anyone and everyone as soon as he meets them. AIBU to think there’s more to this?