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Am I blocked on WhatsApp?

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grcrobbo · 23/09/2023 16:44

I messaged someone last night and it’s still on one grey tick.

I can still see their profile pic, bio, and can add them to a group. Their privacy was such that it didn’t show if they were online/last seen etc anyway so that’s no clue.

In your experience, am I blocked?

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grcrobbo · 23/09/2023 18:37

@TrickorTreacle - it definitely isn’t a bloke! I’ve been married for 10 years and definitely not looking elsewhere! 😂

it’s a friend who is, in my view, vulnerable. Perhaps I’m over-worrying. I’ll just have to wait and see I guess. I don’t think I’d be as concerned if she wasn’t out of the country. Maybe I have too much of a vivid imagination!

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stayclosetoyourself · 23/09/2023 18:46

Could either be blocked or no WiFi / data so msg not gone through or their phone not charged
Give it some time

gamerchick · 23/09/2023 18:50

Maybe your friend just wants a bit of peace while on holidays, without any of her needy mates constantly disturbing her.

Leave her alone man.

shutterup · 23/09/2023 19:16

Haven't read full thread but if you're blocked you can still see pic until one of three things happens:
you tap into the pic and it will then change to the avatar
A little while has passed since the block (don't know how long, couple of weeks max)
They change profile pic - you'll only see the grey avatar.

Original poster
grcrobbo · 23/09/2023 19:23

@shutterup - thanks so much, this is really helpful. I guess only time will tell! I’ll try and just trust things are fine and we’ll speak when she’s ready.

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sonjadog · 23/09/2023 19:25

Why are you so concerned that she is out of the country? Is she somewhere dodgy or is she likely to be involved in potentially dangerous activities? Just being out of the country seems like an odd thing to be worried about, unless there is a good reason. If she is having a hard time, maybe being somewhere new and focusing on other things is exactly what she needs...

Fab973 · 23/09/2023 19:26

I know you are looking out for her and it’s coming from a good place but you need to leave her alone. When people go on holiday it is to escape and sometimes forget about the difficulties back home. You also sound intense so she may have turned off read receipts and her WiFi to actually get properly away from everyone and what she is going through. You could send her an email and say “just checking you got on holiday safely. Hope you have a ball” and leave it at that.

shutterup · 23/09/2023 19:29

grcrobbo · 23/09/2023 19:23

@shutterup - thanks so much, this is really helpful. I guess only time will tell! I’ll try and just trust things are fine and we’ll speak when she’s ready.

Have you clicked into the profile pic? It will change instantly if you're blocked. Hope not :)

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grcrobbo · 23/09/2023 19:35

@shutterup - yes, I did and can still see her profile pic fully. I didn’t know if it definitely would change though as can see conflicting things online. thank you.

I’m going to just try and trust she’s ok and give her the space she needs (a lot of sad things have happened to her which have led up to this point so this is why I’m feeling hyper-sensitive! She’s a woman in her 40s who has travelled solo before though, so I guess I just need to trust things are fine and I’ll hear from her soon.)

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shutterup · 23/09/2023 21:11

grcrobbo · 23/09/2023 19:35

@shutterup - yes, I did and can still see her profile pic fully. I didn’t know if it definitely would change though as can see conflicting things online. thank you.

I’m going to just try and trust she’s ok and give her the space she needs (a lot of sad things have happened to her which have led up to this point so this is why I’m feeling hyper-sensitive! She’s a woman in her 40s who has travelled solo before though, so I guess I just need to trust things are fine and I’ll hear from her soon.)

You're not blocked :)
You sound like a nice friend, hope she gets in touch soon.

Sandseaandsky · 23/09/2023 21:24

I don't think you are blocked. I fell out with a friend last year and he blocked me. His profile picture immediately went to a grey avatar and still is to this day, 13 months later. A mutual friend of mine told me he adds status stories alot and I can't see them. From research at the time, I know if he ever unblocked me, all the previous messages between us, all of them over the years disappear on his part but not mine. As far as I remember, I am only blocked on What's App, not on a normal message or phonecall but I have never tried to ring him or message him as it was a pretty brutal fallout. May be blocked there too. You sound like a good friend. Give it time for them to be ready to be reachable.

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grcrobbo · 23/09/2023 21:44

@Sandseaandsky - thank you so much. I’m sorry that happened to you, it must be so upsetting. 💗

At the moment I’m just feeling upset, confused, and concerned. It would just be easier if I knew for sure what had happened instead of my brain just wanderering to worst case scenarios! If she’s just blocked me - ok, that hurts, but it doesn’t necessarily mean she’s not safe.

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Boyonthenres · 23/09/2023 21:47

One grey tick means it hasn't been delivered. You are way over thinking this

FLOWER1982 · 23/09/2023 21:50

It sounds like they have no WiFi. Quite likely if they are on holidays. Either that or phone off?

LittleBearPad · 23/09/2023 21:53

You’re sounding a bit deranged OP. Let them be.

FallGall · 23/09/2023 22:08

With all due respect OP, you are seriously overthinking this. Leave her in peace when she has signal she will get back to you.

Sandseaandsky · 23/09/2023 22:14

I understand that. Ignore the negativity here. You're the only one who knows what's going on. You can't help how you feel. Hope you sleep.x

Glitterblue · 23/09/2023 22:17

One tick means it hasn’t gone through. My friend keeps running out of data or turning it off to preserve it and it shows up as one tick until she has her data on again

heyitsthistle · 23/09/2023 22:27

If you're blocked, when you try to view their full sized profile photo it'll say "no profile photo".

Thisisworsethananticpated · 23/09/2023 22:30

No

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