To believe dd?

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Who has made allegations about her dad behaviour when there
he says outright not true she says it is
how can an adult just deny this and blame their dd?

Of course any abuser is always going to deny it. Say he has punched her (don’t know what he’s done) he’s never going to say, yeh mate I punched her or admit it to the police. But you believe her and contact the police

Depends on the seriousness of accusations and how old your DD is and if she has form for lying.

but you know your child best.

Please don’t go to him first or tell him any more and break her trust that she’s confused in you adn don’t let her go there again and be punished for telling you/he’ll tell her you don’t believe her etc

My mum didn't believe me. I only told her the first time. The rest of my childhood was a misery. I suffered because I knew no one would believe me, no point in telling twice. He broke my ribs and covered me with bruises. I wore winter pe kit in summer to cover it up.

Believe your child, follow it up. Do everything you can to find the truth.

What behaviour

And why would she lie

And why would you be stupid enough to ask him and wonder why he'd deny it

As of he would just say "oh yeh, she's right! I DO abuse her"...

Come on. You have to believe her

Sorry think my aibu is misleading I don’t doubt her but he has made me feel u for even bringing it up! Of course I believe her and she’s not going again

You have to believe her.

If she’s right and you don’t believe her you’ll regret it forever.

If she’s lying she will have to deal with the consequences. Your ex is an adult and will have to work through it.

For every one child that lies about abuse there must be hundreds of 1000’s who don’t lie, or don’t even tell, or don’t get listened to.

Difficult one as we have no idea what has happened, but if true going straight to DH could make things worse for her,she should be the absolute priority OP