Retaliation after DS attacked a kid at school.

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DS attacked a boy at school earlier this week. Totally out of character. He’s always been an exemplary student (Yr10) and is well known and praised for this. School was shocked, even random kids came up to me when I went to pick him up saying they couldn’t believe it. Obviously got round like wildfire!

DS has struggled a lot with being called names from primary school.

Anyway this kid had said something to him last week and again this week and DS said he lost his shit as he’s sick of it so he attacked him and put him on the ground and gave him a few slaps. No injuries apart from to the ego. DS is not sorry and I have to say I’m secretly quite proud of him for finally standing up for himself.

He was suspended (no issue with that), had a meeting with the kid to agree that that was the end of it but the kid and his mates want to get him back and were waiting for him outside school today (with with an older sibling and his mates) asking his friends where he lived and which way he walks home. DS had already left.

Now I can understand this kid is aggrieved (maybe he should have kept his mouth shut) and DS should not have used violence but I’m quite concerned DS will be beaten up. He will obviously be collected from school from now on but still plenty of opportunity.

WWYD?

I would try to contact the parents for a chat. If you don’t know them, could the school invite you both in for a meeting? And I would definitely inform the school so they can make sure there’s no retaliation there

No injuries apart from to the ego. DS is not sorry and I have to say I’m secretly quite proud of him
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This is natural consequences and will teach your don the valuable lesson that violence only ever perpetuates further violence.

Ask school if he can leave 10 minutes early until half term, and/or collect him yourself.

Go back to the school and talk with them.
So it's OK for your child to beat someone up but now your worried he is going to be beaten up

Hate this sort of yob mentality. Your son stood up for himself in a one on one situation. Now he's likely to be beaten up by a gang of youths. Immoral and potentially dangerous. I would be speaking to the school and picking him up for the foreseeable. I remember a similar incident from my own school days and the lad was hospitalised.

No I would not contact the parents

Not by a gang no. It would quite obviously be much much worse.

A one on one situation is very different to one child being attacked by a group of children including older children or young adults.

If they attack him in school the school must give him the same consequences as ds had

Outside of school is a police matter surely?

Either way get a ring camera and some basic hone security te your son this is a consequence of his actions next time go through the schools bullying policy

They all sound feral.

Nothing to be proud of here. Teach your son to use his words, or in 10 years time he’ll be beating up his girlfriend.

Speak to the school asap. See what they suggest. Likely they will all be called into a room and to discuss and get over it without any further violence. They will also be warned about the consequences of any escalation. Hopefully this is a lesson learnt for all involved without any further violence.

Oh what a load of shit. Are you saying every kid whose had a playground scuffle is going to go on to be a wife beater? Get a handle on reality ffs.

If they attack him then he could be permanently injured. Consequences are not going to help the OP's son if he gets attacked and receives a head injury - just last week the mum of another boy similar age was on here after he had bad concussion from being beaten up.