To ask women tips for dealing with these U behaviours…

[ThingthatgoesFFSinthenight]

As a woman, how do you deal with the following behaviours (often men doing them, and is in this case, but not always)…

1. Talking over you.
2. interrupting you
3. saying something with certainty when you know they are wrong
4. getting upset and angry when you point out they are wrong/being rude etc. no matter how gently you put it.
5. blatantly not listening when you are talking.
6. tell you to stop being rude/aggressive when you assert yourself strongly.

All tips welcome. From the funny to the serious. From the outrageous to the sensible. If you have inspiring or funny examples all the better.

I am being driven mad and want to just scream ‘grow the fuck up!’

Today I have been right twice, but ignored because he thought he knew better. Told not to be aggressive when in conversation I said that x plan might not be needed as it was a bit over the top. Ignored and had to repeat myself three times on at least three occasions, been talking to DC about something and he jumps in and takes over the conversation.

I am hiding in the bedroom now because I am ready to explode.

Separation I guess!

You could try couples therapy as a last chance?

Yes I have had that. The best advice I had was to just say nothing at all, completely blank. They then get confused as they are not getting the response they expected. Or just walk off. I did it to my brother who loves to mansplain. He looked so perplexed as there was no more audience and took a whole lot less energy than trying (and failing) to be heard.

Oh... if it's your 'd'h, that's a whole other scenario :(

I thought from your first post that you meant men in general / at work etc. To which I would have said you should call them out on it.

But you meant your partner/husband?! In that case, probably LTB. I suppose you could try telling him that you will NOT be spoken to as if you are an inferior, and that if he carries on being an arrogant twat, then you will dump his sorry arse, but I doubt it will work.

Make loud farting noises every time he speaks.

Hang on - this is your husband?!

I thought this was about work.

I’d try some marriage guidance counselling, but I wouldn’t fancy your chances.. can you afford to separate??

Falconer

Or just walk off. I did it to my brother who loves to mansplain. He looked so perplexed as there was no more audience and took a whole lot less energy than trying (and failing) to be heard.

I have started doing this a bit and it takes a lot less energy - you are right.

It is DH but also other examples. Neighbour collared me the other day and started telling me how to garden. Unsolicited advice. We were in a shop. I was just leaving and he was in the queue. He was keeping the conversation going and when I said ‘oh you’d better go, you’ll lose your place’ he turned around to the man behind him and said ‘you had better go before me, you know women and talking’. I wish I’d been able to think quickly enough but I just smiled (tersely) and he looked sheepish.

VeridicalVagabond · Today 21:07

Make loud farting noises every time he speaks.

😂 yes!! Might try that one. At least it would make me laugh.

Currently in couples counselling and May separate but still have to live together and parent together.

In my own home, I'd get a divorce. Generally:

Talking over you. Keep talking.

Interrupting you Ditto
Saying something with certainty when you know they are wrong Shout QUICK, TO THE INTERNET! And prove them wrong.

Getting upset and angry when you point out they are wrong/being rude etc. no matter how gently you put it. <sigh> and leave
Blatantly not listening when you are talking. Say random things. "I had a crocodile sandwich today" and the like. Have fun with it.

Tell you to stop being rude/aggressive when you assert yourself strongly. "You who smelt it dealt it".