To be put off someone now I know they’ve had plastic surgery?

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Been seeing someone for a few months and it’s come about that they had a nose job, veneers and surgery to remove fat from the chest as there was too much for a man basically. I don’t know why but this has honestly put me off a bit and can’t tell if that’s really unreasonable and not how others would feel?

Also OP, would you have noticed any of these changes if he hadn't point them out?
I do think I would be put off a bit by extreme cosmetic changes that looked really obvious, but something subtle would not be an issue...

People everywhere every day do things because they think it makes them look better.

Very few people are the 'real person'.

They might not be having cosmetic facial/body or dental surgery but use teeth whitening strips, dye their hair, have their hair styled and not just have the ends cut off. Use face masks, and products on their skin. Use make up which can make someone look entirely different.

Wear underwear that smooths out or reduces their fat bits. Wear heels. Fake tan. Wear clothes that look good on them and flatter their shape and skin tone. Padded bras.

If you're going around looking like your authentic self without doing any of the above, you might have a point. But I suspect you're not.

Those seem like reasonable minor things to improve his confidence and function? - many guys who develop gynaecomastia or have damaged teeth get that sort of procedure. Its not as if hes done deranged stuff like silicon muscle injections because of a distorted self image of his body.
It also suggests some good things about him- that he is someone who looks after themselves and makes decisions, eg not likely to be the sort of manchild type who becomes dependant on you to make them go to the doctors, that hes willing to work at self care and grooming, that hes proactive about changing stuff that makes him unhappy. Also that hes honest enough to tell you about it rather than pretending hes always looked that way.

As long as he didnt sit there telling me all about the next steps hes planning to alter his appearance to resemble a celebrity or something ridiculous like an elf I would probably be OK with it.

You are allowed to find it off-putting.

I'm not sure knowing he'd had those procedures done would put me off but I might worry that he'd got the bug and would be a Michael Jackson clone 20 years from now.

If it's put you off him, it's put you off him.

I think I'd get the ick if a man had botox and/or lip fillers.

Yes it would put me off too. He sounds abit vain, I also expect when he ages, he’ll find more things to “correct”

Are you wanting to gave children with him? Is it some sort of subliminal thing about his genetics?

So if one of your female friends had surgery would that put you off them? Why is it different because it’s a man?

Gynaecomastia is a medical condition. Many teenagers have orthodontic work. I don't see veneers as much different, and I don't think any of that would put me off. But if it bothers you, then that's your shout.

www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/mens-health/what-is-gynaecomastia/#:~:text=Gynaecomastia%20(sometimes%20referred%20to%20as,teenage%20boys%20and%20older%20men.