My mum your Dad. Roger

[Amberjane41]

For anyone who is watching the show. I’ve seen a few comments online this evening that Roger shouldn’t be looking to move on so quickly, one even saying ‘shame on his daughter’ for encouraging it. I thought it was lovely that she just wanted her dad to be happy. Is a year and a half too soon?

Depends on the individual. My mother started dating 4 months after my dad died. Some people stopped talking to her because they judged it to be too soon.
My MIL became a widow at the age of 52 and has never dated since , she says she just would compare them and the date would lose.

Not too early. He obviously loved his wife dearly but life goes on. And life is short.

It's not too short for a man. They generally struggle to be alone.

It would be too short for me.

really it is up to Roger and not
up to some spectators to decide.

I wouldn't say shame on his daughter, It's a good thing that she's happy for her Dad to meet someone new, but it surprised me that anyone would expect him to be ready for a new relationship after such a long and happy marriage after just a year.

It doesn't seem that long to me. Not to the point that I'd be applying to tv shows anyway.

Although that said, it's a new and positive experience to kick start his confidence.

The only person who can judge whether it's too soon for Roger is Roger.

It's a personal choice really. I've been widowed 2 years and I've only just recently started to think that I would like to meet someone, but I'm in no rush.
For men though I think it's different - they struggle to be alone for long.

Men move on very quickly in my experience. It's the individual's decision anyway.

Never mind Roger,what about Martin?! I feel so sorry for his son.

I agree, it’s for him to decide and there is no handbook. I just felt some of the comments I just read were really nasty and genuinely couldn’t see where they were coming from when I thought it’s was such a lovely thing his daughter did. She just wants him to be happy.

oh yes Martin! I didn’t like him at all. The other Martin was so much nicer and way more attractive. Genuinely didn’t see what those two women saw in him

I think he's the only one who knows really 🤷‍♀️ Grief is a lonely journey and it's very personal. He seems lovely though and I hope he finds what he's looking for.

On a personal note...I once had a date with a guy off an online app who informed me (on the date... it wasn't on his profile!) that he was a widow. I made the usual 'sorry to hear that' etc and he then told me his wife had died 5 weeks ago 😨😱 I had no words! I'd been chatting to him for about 10 days already on the app, so he'd not wasted any time getting back out there! There's 'too soon' and then there's 'disrespectful'!

Roger is absolutely lovely and I agree it’s so sweet his daughter just really wants him to find happiness again. I did initially think “it’s rather soon- don’t push him across the edge, he’s clearly not ready” but I’ve since changed my mind. He’s found his match and they are beautiful together.
I don’t think it’s for anyone to comment out loud if you know what I mean - it’s his decision. I lost my mum 16 years ago and it’s only the last few years I think I’d be okay with my dad moving on, but he doesn’t want to and I respect that. I’m so glad I never had to deal with seeing my dad with another woman … there’s nothing wrong with being alone if that’s your choice.

I agree. That Martin is awful, I really don't understand what the two ladies see in him. I'm guessing it's his wealth and lifestyle that is the attraction 🙄
I cringe with embarrassment for Martin's son 😑

It’s just awful if people are saying this, what utter low life’s. He is clearly devastated by what’s happened to his wife, and his daughter said he was a shadow of himself, no joy left, lost his confidence. It’s hard to watch someone live like that, someone you love. So I see why her and her siblings wanted this, to try to encourage him back into some happiness.

anyone who judges is a pos.